I don’t really get where’s the problem here in the first place? Marriage is first and foremost a team game, why raising the team’s performance can cause anythi

I don’t really get where’s the problem here in the first place? Marriage is first and foremost a team game, why raising the team’s performance can cause anything but pleasure? If you prefer thinking of yourself as a separate independent individual competing with others - you should not get married at all, there’s no point for it.