>My first is due 3 days ago. Congrats! >I'm told that I'm going to have no time any more and good sleep is a thing of the past. My daughter is awesome and is

>My first is due 3 days ago. Congrats! >I'm told that I'm going to have no time any more and good sleep is a thing of the past. My daughter is awesome and is rarely a problem. She was a great sleeper. Yet this is true. Currently going on like day 8 of fevers and multiple doctors saying nothing. >I'm worried, I don't work well when tired. Me neither, I find meditation helps a ton. >I'm just starting to get in the habit of investing in myself as a developer and am reading a lot, practicing a lot. This has made me, in my estimation, a much better programmer. Does this end when you have kids? For 3 years so far yes. >What was it like for you out there that have gone through this change in life? When I was researching how to dad. 5-6 years is what they say, then school, friends, etc will be what saves you. You then get to do adult things. Here's the thing, all this is not a big worry at all. Its other things you dont expect to happen that will get you. Your spouse will suddenly not want sex anymore. I thought it was a trope/cliche but it's true. I dont know about you but in a monogamous romantic relationship, sex is the first and most prominent indicator for health of relationship. No sex means something is very wrong. The one that really gets me. We were at my sister's for a party and I was inebriated for sure. I went to play with the kids instead of sitting around with adults, I dont know, talking bullshit. I had like 6 kids playing with me in the sand. My spouse comes up to me and says she cant trust me to be alone with our daughter. I still cant figure out why. Yet here I am alone with her every day for hours and nothing ever goes bad.