Father of two teenaged daughters. And still married (against the odds). Your partner and you are about to morph as significantly as a caterpillar. Be aware of

Father of two teenaged daughters. And still married (against the odds). Your partner and you are about to morph as significantly as a caterpillar. Be aware of the fact that you learned how to be a parent in a com-plete-ly different way than she. Different rules, assumptions, roles, implicit and explicit. This, I think, is part of why many marriages fail after having kids. Both parents feel the absolute burden of being a Good Parent, but both have completely different interpretations of what that means. Get counseling early. Talk, talk, talk. Check assumptions. Be loving and kind to yourself and her when you are too exhausted to talk. Yes, go to bed angry. Knowing that in the morning you will be rested and able to discuss whatever angred you with a clearer head. Be aware of the fact that you are becoming butterflies. Oh, and yes. My brain did turn to mush for the first three years or so. I was a zombie at work.