You can do it and you will be better for it. A few tips: 1. Take shifts with your spouse and make sure the person resting you a sleeping in another room away f

You can do it and you will be better for it. A few tips: 1. Take shifts with your spouse and make sure the person resting you a sleeping in another room away from the noise. At least one of you should be rested at all times via naps or night sleep. When both are tired you will fight just because you’re tired. Expect fights if one is tired and the other one is on HN/Social Media/Games so don’t do it unless both of you have slept, eaten and done basic self-care. 2. Find out how to do sleep training first and work on it between 4 months and 12 months. If you don’t figure it out by 12 do cry it out if you have to. 3. Physical and mental work can work together. If you’ve slept, give yourself a problem in your head while you are watching the little one. Talk to them about it like a teammate - they are excellent listeners, will babble back, learn language from you, and keep your head not just in the game but actually coming up with solutions. Record said conversations too because your brain won’t remember much without sleep. 4. Get a great phone with a great camera and capture every moment that matters with audio, video, photos. They change so much in the first few months you will miss them for the rest of your life and you’ll want to hang out with their smily, cute baby videos when their older version talks back at you one day. See it as an enrichment opportunity - when you’re tired you don’t remmener much so days fly by anyway, especially after the first month, when the baby starts smiling and responding to you. If you’ve had even a little burnout coding, dealing with a baby will wipe that out and make you want to code again, just don’t try it while underslept - you’ll make more bugs than you fix.