I just had my first last year. Prepare to write off the first two months. It’s going to be rough and stressful and there will be times where you’ll wonder when

I just had my first last year. Prepare to write off the first two months. It’s going to be rough and stressful and there will be times where you’ll wonder when you will ever have free time and a normal life again. The good news is that it tends to improve in increments of about two weeks for those first two months. Then their eyes can start tracking things, including you, and you’ll get acknowledgement and a smile and it becomes so much more rewarding. In terms of free time, communicating with your partner is going to become critical. Stuff like, “Hey I could use a few hours on Saturday to just write some code/play a video game/go to the gym” will probably require you to allow your partner to have a similar block of free time on another time, but it becomes something you just schedule and execute on like many other things in your life.