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I don't know what life is like where you live but working at a library might solve your need for a group-quiet-focus space. You might also find networking with

I don't know what life is like where you live but working at a library might solve your need for a group-quiet-focus space. You might also find networking with locals an improvement at the local church or school parent's committee? Among my friends those who wanted to be parents are amazingly fulfilled, albeit sometimes tired and stressed. They are also focused and ruthlessly prioritizing, and still get a lot of the most significant things they want to done. Those who fell pregnant through questionable life decisions are mostly less fulfilled with a couple of happy accidents thrown in the mix. Most of them do not have children however. Civilization thanks you for your service (assuming you do it properly).

igetspam 4y ago
I've had an entire building to myself. I guess I made too much of a comment about working from home. We did not have a kid through any mistake. There was an understanding. Sometimes you do things you don't like to get what you want. Civilization would be better off with fewer people, not more. That's a weird thing to say. I thought my point was clear but I guess not. Enjoying being a parent is not a requirement. Good on you, if you do. If all you do is try hard and don't F them up, that's good too. It's not said enough but not everyone likes kids or parenthood and you don't have to feel alone or bad. It's ok.
- xupybd 4y ago
  > Civilization would be better off with fewer people, not more. That's a weird thing to say. This seems to be a major point of contention today. I suspect the belief that the world is better off with either more or less people underlies many disagreements in political policy.
  - igetspam 4y ago
    You may be right but my position here hasn't changed over the decades, while my politics generally have. :)
- peter422 4y ago
  I'll just say good for you for putting in the work. I think I accept the struggle with more positivity than you do (because I actively wanted to have kids), but it's still a struggle. People have tried to make me feel bad about it but that doesn't bother me either. I can feel how I want as long as I'm being a good parent for my children.

igetspam 4y ago

I've had an entire building to myself. I guess I made too much of a comment about working from home. We did not have a kid through any mistake. There was an understanding. Sometimes you do things you don't like to get what you want. Civilization would be better off with fewer people, not more. That's a weird thing to say. I thought my point was clear but I guess not. Enjoying being a parent is not a requirement. Good on you, if you do. If all you do is try hard and don't F them up, that's good too. It's not said enough but not everyone likes kids or parenthood and you don't have to feel alone or bad. It's ok.

xupybd 4y ago
> Civilization would be better off with fewer people, not more. That's a weird thing to say. This seems to be a major point of contention today. I suspect the belief that the world is better off with either more or less people underlies many disagreements in political policy.
- igetspam 4y ago
  You may be right but my position here hasn't changed over the decades, while my politics generally have. :)
peter422 4y ago
I'll just say good for you for putting in the work. I think I accept the struggle with more positivity than you do (because I actively wanted to have kids), but it's still a struggle. People have tried to make me feel bad about it but that doesn't bother me either. I can feel how I want as long as I'm being a good parent for my children.