Congrats man, it's exciting times! I have a 20 month old boy, and just found out we're having a second (boy) next February. Plus, to make things interesting, I

Congrats man, it's exciting times! I have a 20 month old boy, and just found out we're having a second (boy) next February. Plus, to make things interesting, I'm 55, but very fit. I think the first few months are the hardest, esp. given what you're saying. The reason I think that is because you do have to make a big adjustment on all your time, not just sleep. Meaning, for the most part, you will have very little 'me time' now, and it's important to establish some free time of your own. I remember being in a bit of a daze as I worked though, and I did fall into the mental track of 'well my life is over now, better not even think about working on that novel again for 18 years'. The good news is that you will get through this and realize that it's all about time management and how / when you can do your own things. For me that's an hour workout in the day when I can work it in, usually lunch (I work remote). Or I get up a little early and take care of whatever person project I'm working on, code, writing, music, etc. It doesn't so much matter what you do, as long as you set some time aside to do something for you. I'd also try to establish one night out with the boys, but this can be tricky. For me I've always played hockey and run the team I'm on so that's my 'night out with the boys'.