No one can give you advice on this. We miss a lot of the details. > and she was worried that I was taking advantage of the situation We don't know how serious

No one can give you advice on this. We miss a lot of the details. > and she was worried that I was taking advantage of the situation We don't know how serious these events were. > In the end, we decided that the buyout money would go to retirement and not be touched. Is this a shared account or her account. > she would put in a rainy day fund for home improvements or traveling etc. Is that her fund or a shared fund? > This arrangement kind of worked until it came time to use that rainy day funds and she started feeling that we were spending her money. Is that a surgery or a buy a boat situation?