If it's helpful, the government* considers it both of your money. If one of you racks up debts that money will go to pay for it. If you divorce, you'll split it

If it's helpful, the government* considers it both of your money. If one of you racks up debts that money will go to pay for it. If you divorce, you'll split it. You two are a package deal, so all this pettiness isn't helping anything. Use some of the money to go to therapy, both individual and couples. If you go soon enough you might save your marriage. Either way, it's probably the best investment in yourselves that's available. *Depends where you are but certainly true in California