I used to make 2x my spouse. Now she makes 2x me. She’s at a FANG and I’m not. The way we handle it is we spend well under our means and go 50-50 on everything

I used to make 2x my spouse. Now she makes 2x me. She’s at a FANG and I’m not. The way we handle it is we spend well under our means and go 50-50 on everything through various mechanisms. Fundamentally our money is shared but the accounting keeps incentives fully intact. Sounds similar to the OP in practice