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> It doesn't seem surprising though. We've had stories in the UK where young children have wandered the streets for hours with no members of the public wanting
by dtx1 4y ago
> It doesn't seem surprising though. We've had stories in the UK where young children have wandered the streets for hours with no members of the public wanting to get involved because of the attitudes around stranger danger.
Who would have thought that publicly considering every male to be a (potential) sexual predator would have negative consequences? In any case if you are male and ever in a situation where you consider helping someone but don't because you might be considered a perv or a creep, look for another, preferably female adult and involve them in the effort of helping.
- petercooper 4y agoIn any case if you are male and ever in a situation where you consider helping someone but don't because you might be considered a perv or a creep, look for another, preferably female adult and involve them in the effort of helping. I would hope if the situation were grave enough, the instinct to help would just kick in regardless. Like if a kid were hit by a car, most people will want to help if they can. It's the less grave 'grey area' situations where I think people hesitate (which could well include someone in cardiac arrest or maybe having a fit) and teaming up with other strangers seems like a reasonable compromise.
- dtx1 4y agoI was thinking about the little girl lost on the street crying. I've been screamed at for walking the same path as a woman and her child mostly because I was male. Always better to have a preferably female Witness with me.
- blitzar 4y agoWhat incentive is there to help at all given the univeral perception of society is that a male who renders assistance they must be, at best a pervert or more likely a 'pedo guy'. "Teach your child to go to a woman if they are lost. Why? First, if your child selects a woman, it's highly unlikely that the woman will be a sexual predator."
- mikkergp 4y ago> given the univeral perception of society The responses to this thread should easily show this is in fact not a universal perception.
- falcolas 4y agoFWIW, HN is made up of a small niche of developers and entrepreneurs. It’s hardly representative of broader public sentiment. And yet, even here there are a number of data points that show that it is, indeed, a strong perception.
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- xeromal 4y agoI just remembered something from several years ago. My neighbors had a young boy and girl that were about 12 years old. She was rollerblading in the courtyard of our 8 unit complex. She crashed and started crying and I ran out to check and my brain surprised me. In a short amount of time, it decided she was ok enough not to be severely injured and decided to bail. Her parents came about 30 seconds later. I was always disappointed in myself with that situation but after seeing those stories of kids being manipulated into saying bad stuff happened between them and older people, a young male has to weigh the risks. If she was dying, I'd do my best to help but if the injury is superficial or just comfort is needed, it's best to wait.