It seems like different people imagine very different things when they read/hear "wanting to have fun, make friends, etc". I am also a grumpy old man, but I s

It seems like different people imagine very different things when they read/hear "wanting to have fun, make friends, etc". I am also a grumpy old man, but I still want that "wanting to have fun, make friends, etc" in a job. But, my picture of that is closer to your "having meaningful, uncomfortable, worthwhile conversations that result in a genuine, deep relationship forged through facing hard truths together" than "share dank memes with your coworkers or have fun little in-jokes" The best friends I've ever made at work have been ones where we've faced adversity together and helped each other through it - often involving some black humour to keep us going.