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> by compromising on the biggest decision (marriage) of your life. I don’t see how that’s a compromise though? The cultural expectations are just different fo

> by compromising on the biggest decision (marriage) of your life. I don’t see how that’s a compromise though? The cultural expectations are just different for folks from India: no parent from France is expecting their kid who decided to move to another country to be with a French person, and 90% of immigrants from India end up marrying another immigrant from India, even if they more to the US in their early twenties.

screye 4y ago
I don't think this matches standard wisdoms. Culturally, 'Western Europe + USA' are more similar to each other than Indian sub-cultures among themselves. In most cases you are interacting with other white people coming from christian cultures. Even the People-of-Color that white people do date tend to be deeply integrated into western culture to the point where they're more culturally white than Indian. In terms of cultural exchange, most of the effort to integrate is being put in by the Indian. (replace Indian with any non-western cultural group). The extent to which the cultural exchange is unidirectional isn't even funny. There isn't a lot of great data on this, but limited dating data tells us that it is actually white people (esp men) who have strong intra-race-dating preferences as compared to Asians or Latinos. [1] [2 Table 3] [1] https://imgix.bustle.com/inverse/be/92/f8/14/fb8b/44a7/9f63/0cc944edfb9b/a-quartz-infographic-exposes-some-uncomfortable-truths.png?w=710&h=806&fit=max&auto=format%2Ccompress https://imgix.bustle.com/inverse/be/92/f8/14/fb8b/44a7/9f63/... [2 Table 3] https://www.mit.edu/~6.s085/papers/racialPreferences.pdf https://www.mit.edu/~6.s085/papers/racialPreferences.pdf
- thatfrenchguy 4y ago
  > Culturally, 'Western Europe + USA' are more similar to each other than Indian sub-cultures among themselves I'm French and my partner is American. This is really really really really not true, the cultural differences between French and American people are enormous. [2 Table 3] https://www.mit.edu/~6.s085/papers/racialPreferences.pdf https://www.mit.edu/~6.s085/papers/racialPreferences.pdf > While this is significantly below the 53% that we would observe under random matching, it is still far above the 4% of interracial marriages observed in the Census data They clearly have a sample bias though :). Their data is also fairly outdated: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2017/05/18/1-trends-and-patterns-in-intermarriage/ https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2017/05/18/1-trend...

screye 4y ago

I don't think this matches standard wisdoms. Culturally, 'Western Europe + USA' are more similar to each other than Indian sub-cultures among themselves. In most cases you are interacting with other white people coming from christian cultures. Even the People-of-Color that white people do date tend to be deeply integrated into western culture to the point where they're more culturally white than Indian. In terms of cultural exchange, most of the effort to integrate is being put in by the Indian. (replace Indian with any non-western cultural group). The extent to which the cultural exchange is unidirectional isn't even funny. There isn't a lot of great data on this, but limited dating data tells us that it is actually white people (esp men) who have strong intra-race-dating preferences as compared to Asians or Latinos. [1] [2 Table 3] [1] https://imgix.bustle.com/inverse/be/92/f8/14/fb8b/44a7/9f63/0cc944edfb9b/a-quartz-infographic-exposes-some-uncomfortable-truths.png?w=710&h=806&fit=max&auto=format%2Ccompress https://imgix.bustle.com/inverse/be/92/f8/14/fb8b/44a7/9f63/... [2 Table 3] https://www.mit.edu/~6.s085/papers/racialPreferences.pdf https://www.mit.edu/~6.s085/papers/racialPreferences.pdf

thatfrenchguy 4y ago
> Culturally, 'Western Europe + USA' are more similar to each other than Indian sub-cultures among themselves I'm French and my partner is American. This is really really really really not true, the cultural differences between French and American people are enormous. [2 Table 3] https://www.mit.edu/~6.s085/papers/racialPreferences.pdf https://www.mit.edu/~6.s085/papers/racialPreferences.pdf > While this is significantly below the 53% that we would observe under random matching, it is still far above the 4% of interracial marriages observed in the Census data They clearly have a sample bias though :). Their data is also fairly outdated: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2017/05/18/1-trends-and-patterns-in-intermarriage/ https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2017/05/18/1-trend...