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He’s describing a form of “cooperative overlapping”: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/25/opinion/interrupting-cooperative-overlapping.html https://www.nytimes.co
by smogcutter 4y ago
He’s describing a form of “cooperative overlapping”: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/25/opinion/interrupting-cooperative-overlapping.html https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/25/opinion/interrupting-coop...
Things like this are cultural and learned. I think for many people it isn’t until they first hit a radical change of frame (say, going away to college or moving to a new city) that they realize there even are different conversational styles.
One thing I hadn’t considered until TFA is the effect of not being interrupted. I can definitely tend to drone on, especially if I’m explaining something. Unconsciously, I’m waiting for you to signal that we’re on the same page by taking the conversational ball and running with it. Failing that, I don’t really know when to stop.
- Cthulhu_ 4y agoYou stop when you have said as little as possible, but no less; make your point, don't start repeating it because then you assume the other party didn't get it. Here's a good video on the subject: https://www.ted.com/talks/celeste_headlee_10_ways_to_have_a_better_conversation https://www.ted.com/talks/celeste_headlee_10_ways_to_have_a_...