I agree that this is both more effective and has the benefit of encouraging people to understand others in a deeper level. Taking the time to understand someone

I agree that this is both more effective and has the benefit of encouraging people to understand others in a deeper level. Taking the time to understand someone else handles stress differently (and has different strengths and weaknesses, preferences, ways of communication, etc.) is a level above just treating people the way oneself wants to be treated. Anecdotally- I've had many experiences with my mother who adamantly insists she treats others the way she wants to be treated when, in fact, she has a very unique life experience that has generated some specific ideas of how she thinks people should behave, and in treating others the way she wants to be treated she tends to unintentionally generate miscommunication and awkward situations at best, if not sometimes conflicts and harm.