Behaviors observed by others is far different from experiences of people who are actually autistic. Just because behavior (an outward expression) is not always

Behaviors observed by others is far different from experiences of people who are actually autistic. Just because behavior (an outward expression) is not always consistent does not mean the label is useless. Even as a neuro-divergent (and very likely autistic, but not diagnosed) person I struggle to understand my actually diagnosed autistic childrens' (plural) experiences. One thing I think is fairly common is the sensitivity to pain (physical or emotional) is typically much stronger to the point of trauma that would be nothing for a "neurotypical". Whether or not that trauma is expressed outwardly (or in a specific way) varries greatly from person to person.