Love this. As a single, relatively lonely guy, shame-avoidance drives a lot of what I do. Romantically, sure, I'd do almost anything to maintain a veneer of pla

Love this. As a single, relatively lonely guy, shame-avoidance drives a lot of what I do. Romantically, sure, I'd do almost anything to maintain a veneer of plausible deniability, but also just existing in the world. I feel fine when I'm doing, but have a really hard time being in public without a plan.