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'People think about you enormously less than you think they think about you' was a really important realisation for my mental wellbeing! It's quite easy to demo

'People think about you enormously less than you think they think about you' was a really important realisation for my mental wellbeing! It's quite easy to demonstrate too, pick a random person in your life who you don't have a close relationship with and try and remember some random anecdote they mentioned a month ago. This should be drilled into schoolchildren along with reading and writing I think, many people's teenage years are intensely stressful partially because of this false notion other people remember things you did in perfect detail.

Jensson 4y ago
People have trigger words and phrases though, if you utter them the person will flip a switch in their head and now treats you differently. There isn't any nuance here, people don't think a lot about you so there isn't room for nuance. And since they don't think a lot about you it means that you wont be able to make them flip that switch back unless you find some rare trigger phrase for it, or a very long time passes, or you can somehow make them think a lot about you.