The need to coat everything in layers to avoid hurting feelings all the time. I'm no bully but I've witnessed a lot of dead end discussions where people(myself

The need to coat everything in layers to avoid hurting feelings all the time. I'm no bully but I've witnessed a lot of dead end discussions where people(myself included) couldn't express themselves freely enough so we just kept going without any real progress. ps: for instance I could propose a change, but that would imply people who worked in this manner to feel bad or worse, humiliated. So I back off and we keep wasting time. Or that would mean me taking steps to ensure I've discussed that with them privately so they know it's not an attack nor a way to take the light, but a global need for the group to reach better goals in less efforts.