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That's one way to look at it, but mostly not mine. Places like this; I don't argue with individuals primarily to privately change their minds. I argue "in pub
by jrm4 4y ago
That's one way to look at it, but mostly not mine.
Places like this; I don't argue with individuals primarily to privately change their minds. I argue "in public" to get the debate out there and perhaps change the minds of the other readers.
- em-bee 4y agosure, but the same principles apply. if someone responds showing offense at your post, apologize, retry and move on.
- jrm4 4y agoNot if the offense is unwarranted, of course?
- em-bee 4y agotaking offense is almost always unwarranted. the point of an apology is not to admit that taking offense would be warranted but make clear that no offense was intended hoping to be able to continue the conversation. i like to go by this: try to avoid offending anyone with what i say, but also try to not get offended by what others say. if someone is offended, it could be something that was a trigger, or some misunderstanding, or that person is just to easily offended or there is some deeper issue that i am not aware of. either way, there is a failure in communication, and if i want to continue the conversation, i need to find away around it. in most cases an apology is a way to do that. not doing anything about the offense assumes that the other person knows that their taking offense is unwarranted. but i believe many don't, or they wouldn't have taken offense. if the person is reasonable, they will accept the apology and be able to calm down and the discussion can continue. if they are not, the conversation is most likely over, or it escalates. both are things i'd rather avoid.