Yeah, when we feel they might need a hug (hurt themselves, some sadness, anger) we ask whether they want one. And the key here is not getting angry, sad or impa

Yeah, when we feel they might need a hug (hurt themselves, some sadness, anger) we ask whether they want one. And the key here is not getting angry, sad or impatient when they refuse,but staying around patiently. It's there if they want it, there is no reason for anyone to rebuke them for not wanting to be touched... They need to know that normal is not forced in any way. To be able to see the difference, when they're being forced. It's not something I was taught and it's very, very hard sometimes to stay and 'be there' and not hug... But the worst time to force is when they're the most vulnerable.