> I get replies like "wow! we've love to have you, but you're clearly too expensive and would not be happy doing the non-shiny things we do." And I never even m

> I get replies like "wow! we've love to have you, but you're clearly too expensive and would not be happy doing the non-shiny things we do." And I never even mentioned salary. This could be like when a romantic partner says, “Let’s be friends.” They usually don’t want to be friends.