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Exercise. Don't drink. Eat well. Skip news/media that adds nothing. Read vociferously. Get plenty of rest time. Appreciate the downtime because it's not downtim

Exercise. Don't drink. Eat well. Skip news/media that adds nothing. Read vociferously. Get plenty of rest time. Appreciate the downtime because it's not downtime it's valuable reflection time. Doing several slow things at the same time works. Examples: Walk to the subway, bus. Don't be in a hurry. When getting to the stop, take 3 or 4 minutes to chill and appreciate the sky, plants, whatever you have. Wake up earlier so as not to be in a hurry. Eat satiably. Cook if you like. Cook a little more and take a packed lunch. Cook for loved ones. Take the stairs not the escalator. Read a book on the subway about something completely different than your 'jobs'. Listen to a quality podcast while doing morning stretching or abs. Wish others a nice day. Being positive breeds positivity. Plan ahead minimising catch-up. Engage in office banter, do more. Always be the owner. Synergies happen in the funniest of places. Never feel guilty for reading around or into a subject more than's needed. Don't feel guilty for not knowing something. Give time generously. Take lots of breaks. Laugh vigorously when realising something was so simple. Take another break. Do not work a job that measures you on time. Drink plenty of water. Never forget what's most important for you.

pipeline_peak 4y ago
What’s the difference between news media that adds/doesn’t add benefit?
- deleted 4y ago
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- dismantlethesun 4y ago
  General tech news adds no benefit. However, news specific to your industry segment can add benefit. For example, knowing a gas pipeline is shut down leading to temporarily high gas prices is useful if you are in logistics. However knowing that Intel just made a faster chip is not so useful. Similarly, the political stage of Belize is only useful if you have work or family that is impacts by that. Just knowing it otherwise is only useful for fun conversations.
  - lotsofpulp 4y ago
    News about politics is also helpful. You can decide who to support, or to run for office yourself, or to campaign on behalf of others, or at least donate. Society does foment a favorable environment for you to exist in without effort. And if it does, then you are lucky to be in the right place at the right time, and assume the favorable environment is temporary.
    - dismantlethesun 4y ago
      I agree on that. If you’re going to be involved in the political process you should a minimum keep track of the politicians on what they’re doing at any given time.
    - vcryan 4y ago
      News about politics is extremely addictive. Rather than checking daily, or twice a day, or 50 times a day, you could block off a few hours once per month and get whatever the benefit is a person gets from keeping track of political topics.
      - ChildOfChaos 4y ago
        To be honest I am bad with this, but I think really the only time it's actually useful is at any point you can do something about it, else the rest of the time you can avoid. Even a few hours a month seems wasteful to me, there will be a lot of stories playing out and speculation that doesn't mean anything to you right now. Really only at elections is when it seems important to me, do your research and go deeper than most and then make your choice, but avoid the news the rest of the time seems the optional thing to me. You tend to hear about things anyway, everyone has an opinion on this thing and they love to share it, no matter how much they know about the topic, the best way to not get suckered in, is not to follow it at all. I've in no way managed to apply this to my life yet though, but it is my goal.
- vcryan 4y ago
  I think he was being kind. While not everyone would agree with this, my lived experience is that the "news" or news media is rarely useful, often stressful and significantly more bad than good in terms of its impact on my mental well-being and focus. Having said this, there are two areas that keep people attached to the news: a concern about become uninformed or being (or being perceived as) apathetic to the problems people face in the world. Afraid of being uninformed? Read books on current topics. Afraid of becoming apathetic? Donate to the non-profits that are positioned to do the most good in the areas of your concern. Boom -- now you are informed and helpful while also undistracted and undisturbed by unhelpful, advertiser-driven news media.
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  - daliusd 4y ago
    What if it is government sponsored media and there are rules that it must be independent from politicians?
    - vcryan 4y ago
      I think you are speaking about accuracy. My point is that I don't benefit from a continuous stream of information about current events interspersed with advertisements -- it just doesn't serve me whether it is accurate or not.
  - idlehand 4y ago
    I find it relieving to be living in a world where things are not static. So I read as much news as I can, every day. I also recognize that I have very little impact on whatever is being reported on, and that it has very little impact on me. I think a lot of people have to let go of the idea that they will somehow save the world. Embrace your insignificance. It's just as much a blessing as a curse.
- jddil 4y ago
  No news adds benefits. It was designed and refined to trigger your outrage and voyeurism. Unless it's hyper local news (that mostly doesn't exist anymore) it's junk and will make your life worse.
999900000999 4y ago
Don't waste all day dwelling on negative things. My first girlfriend, after we broke up gave me a lifelong lesson. You can always control your attitude, more specifically. You can always control what you tell people. If you tell people about all these bad things that are going on all the time, they're just not going to want to be around you. With my first girlfriend, had I just closed my mouth and kept these things to myself. And it was bad stuff, I was going through an eviction. Maybe things would have worked out . The other thing though, you just have to be grateful for right now. To paraphrase Thich Nhat Hanh Fine piece with every step
- jrh206 4y ago
  There's balance to be had. Keeping everything inside isn't healthy either.
  - xapata 4y ago
    Sharing sadness and frustrations is different than complaining.
  - lisper 4y ago
    My approach to this is: I talk about the bad things that are going on in my life, but I always follow up with all of the good things: I live in a country that is not at war. I am not homeless. I have access to hot and cold running water that is (mostly) safe to drink. I even have air conditioning, which in many parts of the world is an unimaginable luxury. So yes, there might be some bad shit going on in my life at the moment, but no matter how bad things get they can almost certainly get worse. And unless you are living in an underdeveloped country or Ukraine, they can almost certainly get a whole lot worse [1]. So yes, I vent about things. But I always follow up by counting my blessings. [1] https://blog.rongarret.info/2009/10/travelogue-beauty-and-desperation-in.html https://blog.rongarret.info/2009/10/travelogue-beauty-and-de...
    - hey2022 4y ago
      That sounds like an unnatural conversation to have with a partner. Sharing specific negative things about your immediate experience and then slapping “I am grateful that I don’t live in a war-torn country” on top. Saying that, I agree that reminding _yourself_ of such things helps to keep a more healthy perspective, just not sure sharing that in a conversation is helpful.
CoastalCoder 4y ago
> Wish others a nice day. I was mentally rolling my eyes at the parent post, because it seemed to have a lot of platitudes. Well, not platitudes per se, probably just good suggestions that get repeated a lot but rarely followed. But the "Wish others a nice day." one stood out. It seems like great advice, and for some reason it just wasn't in my mental list of good ideas. So thanks! And, I hope you have a good day!
tepitoperrito 4y ago
This comment is some kind of spiritual gold. I would upvote twice if I could but since I can't... The ancient Masters were profound and subtle. Their wisdom was unfathomable. There is no way to describe it; all we can describe is their appearance. They were careful as someone crossing an iced-over stream. Alert as a warrior in enemy territory. Courteous as a guest. Fluid as melting ice. Shapable as a block of wood. Receptive as a valley. Clear as a glass of water. Do you have the patience to wait till your mud settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving till the right action arises by itself? The Master doesn’t seek fulfillment.. Not seeking, not expecting, she is present, and can welcome all things.
- teddyh 4y ago
  (Those are quotes from the Tao Te Ching, IIRC.)
  - tepitoperrito 4y ago
    Yup, I need to find my favorite translation again.
izietto 4y ago
It reminds me the lyrics of this song: https://www.musixmatch.com/lyrics/Radiohead/Fitter-Happier https://www.musixmatch.com/lyrics/Radiohead/Fitter-Happier
- aftergibson 4y ago
  At first I thought it was these lyrics! Fitter happier More productive Comfortable Not drinking too much Regular exercise at the gym (3 days a week) Getting on better with your associate employee contemporaries At ease Eating well (no more microwave dinners and saturated fats) A patient, better driver A safer car (baby smiling in back seat) Sleeping well (no bad dreams) It’s so easy just be a better person! Thanks internet comment.
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stavros 4y ago
Write short sentences. Use plenty of periods. Makes you sound wise. Do what people online say. Don't consider your own preferences. Don't have fun. If you do, make it short. You have to be productive. You have to make every moment count. You have to produce. You have to have output. An unproductive moment is a wasted moment. Remember: one day you
- thegagne 4y ago
  https://youtu.be/pVQeP5vRP5E https://youtu.be/pVQeP5vRP5E
- westoncb 4y ago
  Irony is that this dismissal itself is so typical in style I sensed the presence of a twitter account by the end of the second sentence.
endymi0n 4y ago
But trust me on the sunscreen!
ChildOfChaos 4y ago
I think this is the key. The two extremes. Focus hard, but then have real downtime, slow time, stillness. Time to just let your mind and thoughts wonder, to relax, walk, meditate, listen to music, clean, just sit down and do nothing for a bit. Cut out news and social media, cut out the noise, replace it with that kinda down time, real downtime, not this grey area that feels like relaxing but isn't, sometimes it feels like work and isn't too (like watching youtube, reading articles on productivity etc), this is the grey area. Avoid as much grey activities as possible. Either real work and real focus, or real downtime and stillness and as little of anything in-between as possible.
mbrodersen 4y ago
Remember that no matter what you do one day you will die. And the few people who will remember you will also one day die. Given that, what is most important to you in your life?

pipeline_peak 4y ago

What’s the difference between news media that adds/doesn’t add benefit?

deleted 4y ago
[deleted]
dismantlethesun 4y ago
General tech news adds no benefit. However, news specific to your industry segment can add benefit. For example, knowing a gas pipeline is shut down leading to temporarily high gas prices is useful if you are in logistics. However knowing that Intel just made a faster chip is not so useful. Similarly, the political stage of Belize is only useful if you have work or family that is impacts by that. Just knowing it otherwise is only useful for fun conversations.
- lotsofpulp 4y ago
  News about politics is also helpful. You can decide who to support, or to run for office yourself, or to campaign on behalf of others, or at least donate. Society does foment a favorable environment for you to exist in without effort. And if it does, then you are lucky to be in the right place at the right time, and assume the favorable environment is temporary.
  - dismantlethesun 4y ago
    I agree on that. If you’re going to be involved in the political process you should a minimum keep track of the politicians on what they’re doing at any given time.
  - vcryan 4y ago
    News about politics is extremely addictive. Rather than checking daily, or twice a day, or 50 times a day, you could block off a few hours once per month and get whatever the benefit is a person gets from keeping track of political topics.
    - ChildOfChaos 4y ago
      To be honest I am bad with this, but I think really the only time it's actually useful is at any point you can do something about it, else the rest of the time you can avoid. Even a few hours a month seems wasteful to me, there will be a lot of stories playing out and speculation that doesn't mean anything to you right now. Really only at elections is when it seems important to me, do your research and go deeper than most and then make your choice, but avoid the news the rest of the time seems the optional thing to me. You tend to hear about things anyway, everyone has an opinion on this thing and they love to share it, no matter how much they know about the topic, the best way to not get suckered in, is not to follow it at all. I've in no way managed to apply this to my life yet though, but it is my goal.
vcryan 4y ago
I think he was being kind. While not everyone would agree with this, my lived experience is that the "news" or news media is rarely useful, often stressful and significantly more bad than good in terms of its impact on my mental well-being and focus. Having said this, there are two areas that keep people attached to the news: a concern about become uninformed or being (or being perceived as) apathetic to the problems people face in the world. Afraid of being uninformed? Read books on current topics. Afraid of becoming apathetic? Donate to the non-profits that are positioned to do the most good in the areas of your concern. Boom -- now you are informed and helpful while also undistracted and undisturbed by unhelpful, advertiser-driven news media.
- deleted 4y ago
  [deleted]
- daliusd 4y ago
  What if it is government sponsored media and there are rules that it must be independent from politicians?
  - vcryan 4y ago
    I think you are speaking about accuracy. My point is that I don't benefit from a continuous stream of information about current events interspersed with advertisements -- it just doesn't serve me whether it is accurate or not.
- idlehand 4y ago
  I find it relieving to be living in a world where things are not static. So I read as much news as I can, every day. I also recognize that I have very little impact on whatever is being reported on, and that it has very little impact on me. I think a lot of people have to let go of the idea that they will somehow save the world. Embrace your insignificance. It's just as much a blessing as a curse.
jddil 4y ago
No news adds benefits. It was designed and refined to trigger your outrage and voyeurism. Unless it's hyper local news (that mostly doesn't exist anymore) it's junk and will make your life worse.

999900000999 4y ago

Don't waste all day dwelling on negative things. My first girlfriend, after we broke up gave me a lifelong lesson. You can always control your attitude, more specifically. You can always control what you tell people. If you tell people about all these bad things that are going on all the time, they're just not going to want to be around you. With my first girlfriend, had I just closed my mouth and kept these things to myself. And it was bad stuff, I was going through an eviction. Maybe things would have worked out . The other thing though, you just have to be grateful for right now. To paraphrase Thich Nhat Hanh Fine piece with every step

jrh206 4y ago
There's balance to be had. Keeping everything inside isn't healthy either.
- xapata 4y ago
  Sharing sadness and frustrations is different than complaining.
- lisper 4y ago
  My approach to this is: I talk about the bad things that are going on in my life, but I always follow up with all of the good things: I live in a country that is not at war. I am not homeless. I have access to hot and cold running water that is (mostly) safe to drink. I even have air conditioning, which in many parts of the world is an unimaginable luxury. So yes, there might be some bad shit going on in my life at the moment, but no matter how bad things get they can almost certainly get worse. And unless you are living in an underdeveloped country or Ukraine, they can almost certainly get a whole lot worse [1]. So yes, I vent about things. But I always follow up by counting my blessings. [1] https://blog.rongarret.info/2009/10/travelogue-beauty-and-desperation-in.html https://blog.rongarret.info/2009/10/travelogue-beauty-and-de...
  - hey2022 4y ago
    That sounds like an unnatural conversation to have with a partner. Sharing specific negative things about your immediate experience and then slapping “I am grateful that I don’t live in a war-torn country” on top. Saying that, I agree that reminding _yourself_ of such things helps to keep a more healthy perspective, just not sure sharing that in a conversation is helpful.

CoastalCoder 4y ago

> Wish others a nice day. I was mentally rolling my eyes at the parent post, because it seemed to have a lot of platitudes. Well, not platitudes per se, probably just good suggestions that get repeated a lot but rarely followed. But the "Wish others a nice day." one stood out. It seems like great advice, and for some reason it just wasn't in my mental list of good ideas. So thanks! And, I hope you have a good day!

tepitoperrito 4y ago

This comment is some kind of spiritual gold. I would upvote twice if I could but since I can't... The ancient Masters were profound and subtle. Their wisdom was unfathomable. There is no way to describe it; all we can describe is their appearance. They were careful as someone crossing an iced-over stream. Alert as a warrior in enemy territory. Courteous as a guest. Fluid as melting ice. Shapable as a block of wood. Receptive as a valley. Clear as a glass of water. Do you have the patience to wait till your mud settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving till the right action arises by itself? The Master doesn’t seek fulfillment.. Not seeking, not expecting, she is present, and can welcome all things.

teddyh 4y ago
(Those are quotes from the Tao Te Ching, IIRC.)
- tepitoperrito 4y ago
  Yup, I need to find my favorite translation again.

izietto 4y ago

It reminds me the lyrics of this song: https://www.musixmatch.com/lyrics/Radiohead/Fitter-Happier https://www.musixmatch.com/lyrics/Radiohead/Fitter-Happier

aftergibson 4y ago
At first I thought it was these lyrics! Fitter happier More productive Comfortable Not drinking too much Regular exercise at the gym (3 days a week) Getting on better with your associate employee contemporaries At ease Eating well (no more microwave dinners and saturated fats) A patient, better driver A safer car (baby smiling in back seat) Sleeping well (no bad dreams) It’s so easy just be a better person! Thanks internet comment.
- deleted 4y ago
  [deleted]

stavros 4y ago

Write short sentences. Use plenty of periods. Makes you sound wise. Do what people online say. Don't consider your own preferences. Don't have fun. If you do, make it short. You have to be productive. You have to make every moment count. You have to produce. You have to have output. An unproductive moment is a wasted moment. Remember: one day you

thegagne 4y ago
https://youtu.be/pVQeP5vRP5E https://youtu.be/pVQeP5vRP5E
westoncb 4y ago
Irony is that this dismissal itself is so typical in style I sensed the presence of a twitter account by the end of the second sentence.

endymi0n 4y ago

But trust me on the sunscreen!

ChildOfChaos 4y ago

I think this is the key. The two extremes. Focus hard, but then have real downtime, slow time, stillness. Time to just let your mind and thoughts wonder, to relax, walk, meditate, listen to music, clean, just sit down and do nothing for a bit. Cut out news and social media, cut out the noise, replace it with that kinda down time, real downtime, not this grey area that feels like relaxing but isn't, sometimes it feels like work and isn't too (like watching youtube, reading articles on productivity etc), this is the grey area. Avoid as much grey activities as possible. Either real work and real focus, or real downtime and stillness and as little of anything in-between as possible.

mbrodersen 4y ago

Remember that no matter what you do one day you will die. And the few people who will remember you will also one day die. Given that, what is most important to you in your life?