I've struggled to buy a house almost my entire adult life. I'll add some nuance to things you said, and hopefully that can connect the dots for some folks. I d

I've struggled to buy a house almost my entire adult life. I'll add some nuance to things you said, and hopefully that can connect the dots for some folks. I don't like looking at a house as an investment, but it currently is. I'm a very frugal person and I save as much of my money as I can. Nevertheless, at 33, when I first met with my financial planner one of the first things she told me was that I'd already maxed out and exhausted places I could legally stick my money for long term investment... besides a house. There are a couple alternatives, but they likely won't be around long. One was a life insurance market account that you push money into every month - turns out, due to it's tax free nature, it can rival the growth of a home. Historically, when houses were lower barrier to entry, they were the simplest and most effective form of saving money. Next, location. I don't need to live somewhere fancy, but when I bought a starter home ($200k) in Dallas the only place I could afford was about 45 minutes north of the city. My commutes to any place I could work were long. Prior to this I had moved to the country to save money to buy that house. My commute was 2.5 hours every day. Even with mass transportation, my commute would be long due to the size of the DFW metroplex. This weighed on me every day. I was missing time with my dogs and family. I was trapped in a scenario with a bunch of tradeoffs that all yielded similar results just as the Dallas market was heating up. Quite literally, the only reason I got my house is because no one bid on it. It had been hit by a tornado and leveled a year prior. People were very superstitious about buying the house.