I'm not sure what you're talking about. Are you saying I should give every person in my extended family of dozens of people a gift each holiday season, and put

I'm not sure what you're talking about. Are you saying I should give every person in my extended family of dozens of people a gift each holiday season, and put lots of thought into each gift? And you're here with an "ugh" in my face if I don't follow your expectation? I have some choice words for you if that's what you're seriously suggesting, but maybe I misunderstood. Regardless, personally judging people for their gift-giving practices in families you know nothing about is obnoxious. I strongly encourage you to reconsider that practice.