I agree. For example, holiday gift-giving seems to be taken on as a dreary and/or anxious obligation by everyone I know. I guess we do it for the subset of peo

I agree. For example, holiday gift-giving seems to be taken on as a dreary and/or anxious obligation by everyone I know. I guess we do it for the subset of people whose "love language" is gifts. But it would be gauché to just give gifts to those people, so now we have to do this whole mess.