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Given that sex distribution is roughly 50/50, doesn't that automatically mean that there's also the rise of lonely, single women?

by badpun 4y ago

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_8j50 4y ago
No. Multiple partners and homosexuals are a thing. OnlyFans exists because of the amount of men that will pay for the attention of all kinds of women.
- cuteboy19 4y ago
  If anything gay men outnumber lesbians. And polygamy is nowhere near common enough to affect the ratio
  - _8j50 4y ago
    I don't know the numbers but I didn't say polygamy, I said multiple partners as in not married but sleeping around when you feel like it with anyone as well as being content with that lifestyle. It is essentially a question of having a partner to share life with and marriage isn't as popular now as it used to be either.
- mountainriver 4y ago
  Is there really that big of a population of men dating multiple women?
  - _8j50 4y ago
    Not neccesarily actively dating but stats show women are only interested in top 10-20% tier of men for casual dating. Casual dating is also taking longer now with marriage becoming more rare. In other words, women change partners more and are content with not having a partner for months at a time between attractive partners. Women are attracted to similar traits much more than men (who are atteacted to like 80% top tier women) which means the too tier men do date more women more constantly than top tier women. The result is, only the very lowest tier of women have trouble finding a partner for casual relationships while only top tier men can say the same. It really boils down to what is considered attractive by men and women. There are many porn sites and communities dedicated for appreciating large women for example while with women, it might be a tolerable feature it is rare to find women fetishizing that (just an example, pick any other category such as height, age,etc... ) Just to be clear, I see nothing wrong with either men or women wanting and appreciating any traits they value in partners. No one is owed affection from strangers.
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lapcat 4y ago
It is curious, yes. In fact there are slightly more women than men in the United States (though not in some other countries). Perhaps the difference is due to the fact that women tend to live longer than men on average. I haven't checked the age group breakdown. "Men represent approximately 62% of dating app users" This difference is interesting, and needs more discussion.
lucaspm98 4y ago
No, 80% of women are sharing the top 20% of men. On dating apps this trend is further exaggerated, men "swipe right" on roughly 50% of profiles while women swipe right on 5%.
- toomuchtodo 4y ago
  Also, educated well earning women don’t date down (in contrast to men who did/do). There is also some evidence from a longitudinal study that childless, unpartnered women have high levels of happiness. Finally, social standards around Men being providers remains (in an economic environment that challenges that). Take that for what you will. (TLDR dating marketplace and the value of participants within the market has rapidly shifted) https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/nov/10/dating-gap-hook-up-culture-female-graduates https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/nov/10/dating-... https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-h... https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2017/09/20/americans-see-men-as-the-financial-providers-even-as-womens-contributions-grow/ https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2017/09/20/americans-s...
  - PraliteMonk 4y ago
    "Older white women account for 58 percent of adults who have used antidepressants for at least five years." Doesn't sound like a high level of happiness to me. https://archive.ph/vSVWx https://archive.ph/vSVWx
    - toomuchtodo 4y ago
      Just as I wouldn’t fault someone for taking anti seizure medication to prevent seizures, I wouldn’t say someone isn’t happy because they’re taking a medication to correct a brain chemical imbalance. The meds are to help enable the ability to experience happiness, not make you happy.
  - BlargMcLarg 4y ago
    >there is also some evidence from a longitudinal study that childless, unpartnered women have high levels of happiness. That often cited study is very shaky at best and has been challenged numerous times. Check Wikipedia[0] on the author in question if you wish to dive into that rabbit hole. Should also be obvious the study in question has to be taken in the context of a major shift in expectations on women. If anything, it's a miracle his 'findings' did not say the same for men too. [0]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paul_Dolan_(behavioural_scientist)#Happy_Ever_After https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paul_Dolan_(behavioural_scient...
teg4n_ 4y ago
Nah there is a difference between bitter and lonely and rejecting what’s available to you because you have self esteem.
- PraliteMonk 4y ago
  - misandrist69420 4y ago

Given that sex distribution is roughly 50/50, doesn't that automatically mean that there's also the rise of lonely, single women?

by badpun 4y ago

Given that sex distribution is roughly 50/50, doesn't that automatically mean that there's also the rise of lonely, single women?

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_8j50 4y ago

No. Multiple partners and homosexuals are a thing. OnlyFans exists because of the amount of men that will pay for the attention of all kinds of women.

cuteboy19 4y ago
If anything gay men outnumber lesbians. And polygamy is nowhere near common enough to affect the ratio
- _8j50 4y ago
  I don't know the numbers but I didn't say polygamy, I said multiple partners as in not married but sleeping around when you feel like it with anyone as well as being content with that lifestyle. It is essentially a question of having a partner to share life with and marriage isn't as popular now as it used to be either.
mountainriver 4y ago
Is there really that big of a population of men dating multiple women?
- _8j50 4y ago
  Not neccesarily actively dating but stats show women are only interested in top 10-20% tier of men for casual dating. Casual dating is also taking longer now with marriage becoming more rare. In other words, women change partners more and are content with not having a partner for months at a time between attractive partners. Women are attracted to similar traits much more than men (who are atteacted to like 80% top tier women) which means the too tier men do date more women more constantly than top tier women. The result is, only the very lowest tier of women have trouble finding a partner for casual relationships while only top tier men can say the same. It really boils down to what is considered attractive by men and women. There are many porn sites and communities dedicated for appreciating large women for example while with women, it might be a tolerable feature it is rare to find women fetishizing that (just an example, pick any other category such as height, age,etc... ) Just to be clear, I see nothing wrong with either men or women wanting and appreciating any traits they value in partners. No one is owed affection from strangers.

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lapcat 4y ago

It is curious, yes. In fact there are slightly more women than men in the United States (though not in some other countries). Perhaps the difference is due to the fact that women tend to live longer than men on average. I haven't checked the age group breakdown. "Men represent approximately 62% of dating app users" This difference is interesting, and needs more discussion.

lucaspm98 4y ago

No, 80% of women are sharing the top 20% of men. On dating apps this trend is further exaggerated, men "swipe right" on roughly 50% of profiles while women swipe right on 5%.

toomuchtodo 4y ago
Also, educated well earning women don’t date down (in contrast to men who did/do). There is also some evidence from a longitudinal study that childless, unpartnered women have high levels of happiness. Finally, social standards around Men being providers remains (in an economic environment that challenges that). Take that for what you will. (TLDR dating marketplace and the value of participants within the market has rapidly shifted) https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/nov/10/dating-gap-hook-up-culture-female-graduates https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/nov/10/dating-... https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-h... https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2017/09/20/americans-see-men-as-the-financial-providers-even-as-womens-contributions-grow/ https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2017/09/20/americans-s...
- PraliteMonk 4y ago
  "Older white women account for 58 percent of adults who have used antidepressants for at least five years." Doesn't sound like a high level of happiness to me. https://archive.ph/vSVWx https://archive.ph/vSVWx
  - toomuchtodo 4y ago
    Just as I wouldn’t fault someone for taking anti seizure medication to prevent seizures, I wouldn’t say someone isn’t happy because they’re taking a medication to correct a brain chemical imbalance. The meds are to help enable the ability to experience happiness, not make you happy.
- BlargMcLarg 4y ago
  >there is also some evidence from a longitudinal study that childless, unpartnered women have high levels of happiness. That often cited study is very shaky at best and has been challenged numerous times. Check Wikipedia[0] on the author in question if you wish to dive into that rabbit hole. Should also be obvious the study in question has to be taken in the context of a major shift in expectations on women. If anything, it's a miracle his 'findings' did not say the same for men too. [0]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paul_Dolan_(behavioural_scientist)#Happy_Ever_After https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paul_Dolan_(behavioural_scient...

teg4n_ 4y ago

Nah there is a difference between bitter and lonely and rejecting what’s available to you because you have self esteem.

PraliteMonk 4y ago
- misandrist69420 4y ago