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As someone who regularly gets invited to this sort of conversation, my advice is to never try to connect with someone via a meeting that is not about solving a
by subpixel 4y ago
As someone who regularly gets invited to this sort of conversation, my advice is to never try to connect with someone via a meeting that is not about solving a shared problem.
Instead, connect with your colleagues through work, get involved with projects that expose and connect you with new people, join the virtual version of the softball team etc.
If you meet a few less people but nobody associates you with an awkward call that was transparently about your careerism, you come out ahead.
- frellus 4y agoThe problem is, as I think Op was alluding to, not all problems are shared, so how to build the supportive relationships that will help them. I think for you, what you need to get out of a 1:1 might be different from other people, and that's ok - not everyone is the same. You'll notice my point though where I suggested the Op use the phrase, "How can I help?" which is meant to create that shared interest. I just also suggest that not all conversations need to be transactional and in order to receive they should come at it with a "giver" mindset.