One problem you are facing is that you are missing 2 important steps: 4) Gauge the reaction 5) Go back to Step 1 Nobody just comes up with a persuasive messag

One problem you are facing is that you are missing 2 important steps: 4) Gauge the reaction 5) Go back to Step 1 Nobody just comes up with a persuasive message and delivers it in one-shot. These people are good at iterating conversations towards a goal.