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Oof. This is black and white thinking at its worst. The author perceives only two possible outcomes, one where things go Right (correct according to his percep
by manimino 4y ago
Oof. This is black and white thinking at its worst.
The author perceives only two possible outcomes, one where things go Right (correct according to his perceptions) and where they go Wrong (correct according to the other party's perceptions).
There's so much missing from this view of the world it's hard to know where to begin.
- The author could be missing some key facts.
- The author could be unaware of other priorities.
- The author could actually be wrong. It happens to the best of us.
- The author may have a history of being Right, getting others to go along with it, and then changing his mind to a different Right. That burns social capital really fast.
There are some algorithms for convincing others in a way that allows them to save face. Nemawashi is a good one to start with. "Disagree and commit" is another.
Best of luck to the author in developing some workplace skills. Once you're out of school, collaboration is more important than getting things Right all the time.
- musingsole 4y agoI read the outlined scenarios differently. They each speak to me as the other party engaging in black or white thinking while the author is attempting to maintain an open mind. This causes the allistic person to perceive pushback. Neurotypicals expect tribemates to follow along, few questions asked. Every question an autistic mind asks to understand the scenario when the other party is looking for political alliance is a reminder to that other party: the autistic person is OTHER -- or at least more OTHER than Fred in Shipping & Receiving.