For anyone skimming the comments first, I found the author's outline to be the most interesting segment (though I recommend reading the essay in full): "Here’s

For anyone skimming the comments first, I found the author's outline to be the most interesting segment (though I recommend reading the essay in full): "Here’s a general outline of what I write: "Gratitude (for her, her hard work, her amazing looks, etc.) "What I’m working on today. "What I’m working towards (goals, deadlines, etc.) "Anything I’m excited about. "Anything that’s bothering me (stress, anxiety, pessimism, etc.) "Ideas that I have (parenting, fixing the home, work related, etc.) "Transactional stuff (finances, things I need to take care of, stuff I need to remember, etc.) "Questions (are there any events coming up, are we doing a date night this week, etc.) "Gratitude (for the life we have, the things we have, the time we have, the kids we have, etc.) "I don’t write every section every day, but those are the general categories I usually fall into. The note usually takes me just shy of a half-hour if I’m not distracted." The notes are quite thoughtful: many of these points sound sweet, and several of the prompts could still work for people who aren't in a relationship. The appreciation shown, and the self-reflection, likely both strengthen the relationship.