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I'm in a very similar demographic as the author so I empathise with how hard things can be, but this: >there’s not a lot of time for communication with my wife
by lbrito 4y ago
I'm in a very similar demographic as the author so I empathise with how hard things can be, but this:
>there’s not a lot of time for communication with my wife. We’re on the go from sun-up to sun-down, and at the end of the day we drop into bed exhausted to get just enough sleep for the next day.
Oh boy. That sounds awful.
Rather than trying to work around that busyness, personally I would go out of my way to just not have that. Maybe I'm naive, but I want to be continuously moving towards being less busy and having more time for my family. Actual time, disposable time. Not time-compressed, high-information-density notes.
Of course, to each their own.
- _carbyau_ 4y agoThat's was one thing that seemed odd to me. Take 15-45 minutes to write a note. Or, y'know, be present for 15-45 minutes right there in person. However I suspect this is less about time management and more about communication styles: this person is a writer. They communicate better when writing.
- TheCowboy 4y agoAs they said in the piece, they're also doing thinking while writing. A lot of this thinking is something that isn't going to happen if you're there in person. And the other advantage they mentioned is that it frees up their in-person conversation time for more interesting and intimate conservations.
- dkdbejwi383 4y agoIt’s an old, oft repeated saying, but nobody ever laments not working enough when they’re on their death bed, but frequently people do regret not spending enough time with loved ones.
- throwaway98797 4y agothe person who is dying isn’t the same person who is working who do you optimize for the old man or the current man