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This is a lie I've heard for decades. It's a lie people believe to justify loving themselves _more_. The problem is selfishness (self love) leads to unhappine

This is a lie I've heard for decades. It's a lie people believe to justify loving themselves _more_. The problem is selfishness (self love) leads to unhappiness, and the lie blinds them to the cause.

Zababa 4y ago
The last psychiatrist has written a lot about that. He calls it modern narcissism, and uses it to explain a lot of what we call depression today. There's also the Christian notion of acedia, the ancester of sloth, that is not just laziness, but a moral failure due to selfishness and being self centered, and thus not doing things for others. I of course won't go around accusing eveyone that's depressed of selfishness or moral failure. But reading about this helped me understand a bit better why I feel so unhappy when I'm surrounded by so many good people.
- iib 4y ago
  Do you have any examples from that blog? I started reading, and while it is very interesting, there are a lot of articles, and I have trouble finding the ones implied in your comment.
  - Zababa 4y ago
    I started reading articles randomly, but the most efficient way I found is to take the archives of "narcissism", and start from the oldest post. Here's a list of link of the most relevant according to me: https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2012/10/the_story_of_narcissus.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2012/10/the_story_of_narciss... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2008/06/hes_not_yelling_at_you_because.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2008/06/hes_not_yelling_at_y... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2008/07/being_the_main_character_in_yo.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2008/07/being_the_main_chara... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/11/a_generational_pathology.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/11/a_generational_patho... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/02/the_other_ego_epidemic.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/02/the_other_ego_epidem... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/12/infidelity_and_other_taboos_me.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/12/infidelity_and_other... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/12/taboos_are_the_ways_christians_1.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/12/taboos_are_the_ways_... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2012/06/amy_schumer_offers_you_a_look.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2012/06/amy_schumer_offers_y...

This is a lie I've heard for decades. It's a lie people believe to justify loving themselves _more_. The problem is selfishness (self love) leads to unhappiness, and the lie blinds them to the cause.

Zababa 4y ago

The last psychiatrist has written a lot about that. He calls it modern narcissism, and uses it to explain a lot of what we call depression today. There's also the Christian notion of acedia, the ancester of sloth, that is not just laziness, but a moral failure due to selfishness and being self centered, and thus not doing things for others. I of course won't go around accusing eveyone that's depressed of selfishness or moral failure. But reading about this helped me understand a bit better why I feel so unhappy when I'm surrounded by so many good people.

iib 4y ago
Do you have any examples from that blog? I started reading, and while it is very interesting, there are a lot of articles, and I have trouble finding the ones implied in your comment.
- Zababa 4y ago
  I started reading articles randomly, but the most efficient way I found is to take the archives of "narcissism", and start from the oldest post. Here's a list of link of the most relevant according to me: https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2012/10/the_story_of_narcissus.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2012/10/the_story_of_narciss... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2008/06/hes_not_yelling_at_you_because.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2008/06/hes_not_yelling_at_y... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2008/07/being_the_main_character_in_yo.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2008/07/being_the_main_chara... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/11/a_generational_pathology.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/11/a_generational_patho... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/02/the_other_ego_epidemic.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/02/the_other_ego_epidem... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/12/infidelity_and_other_taboos_me.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/12/infidelity_and_other... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/12/taboos_are_the_ways_christians_1.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/12/taboos_are_the_ways_... https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2012/06/amy_schumer_offers_you_a_look.html https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2012/06/amy_schumer_offers_y...