I wouldn't say it's necessarily 'asshole'. I've learned this lesson from my own behavior and watching people in my family. Sometimes the failure mode is that th

I wouldn't say it's necessarily 'asshole'. I've learned this lesson from my own behavior and watching people in my family. Sometimes the failure mode is that they just have no idea what you're talking about and are confused. People don't trust people who confuse them, so it's a good idea to be direct until they know your personality and how to interpret you, as the article suggests.