As a NT wife and mother of people on the autism spectrum,I often notice that the autistic person's desire to be 'right' (or more precisely, their desire not to

As a NT wife and mother of people on the autism spectrum,I often notice that the autistic person's desire to be 'right' (or more precisely, their desire not to be 'wrong') takes precedence in their minds to the extent that my attempts to introduce new evidence to support my case, or contextualise my viewpoint further are largely ignored/not processed, and so a waste of time. An example from a shopping trip yesterday: My husband: "Oh, this shower gel is on offer!" (he puts one into our trolley)."Would you like one?" (asked while simultaneously picking up a second bottle and placing it in our trolley). I assume that the second bottle is for me, so later at home, after he's unpacked the shopping, ask him "oh,where did you put my shower gel?", to which he replies "What?, both bottles were for me! You didn't reply when I asked you if you wanted one, so I took it you didn't want one." Now no amount of me replaying the scenario, with me putting two chocolate bars into the trolley will cause him to see (or I often feel admit) that, while I am not conclusively right in my interpretation, it's totally understandable that I could have interpreted the situation in the way in which I did.I feel that if my husband took a colour blind test, where you try to read out the numbers within circles, he would declare that any numbers he couldn't perceive "weren't there", rather than that HE couldn't see them, so may have a degree of colour blindness.