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I don’t agree, based on at least my personal experience. My wife and I (40s) don’t engage in even a fraction of the acts I see commonly in porn. My bf (mid-20s)

by sidlls 4y ago

I don’t agree, based on at least my personal experience. My wife and I (40s) don’t engage in even a fraction of the acts I see commonly in porn. My bf (mid-20s) and I, on the other hand regularly do. He sees these acts as normal and expected. She definitely does not, and neither do I. Anecdotes aren’t data, to be sure, but my bf’s friend group has a similarly completely different view of what is “normal” with respect to sexual activity, and the same is true for others of similar age I’ve been involved with. I’m convinced porn definitely shapes the view of normal.

dTal 4y ago
Not saying you're necessarily wrong, but your observations are fully explainable by porn following trends; no causal direction can be established from them.
- sidlls 4y ago
  You have a point, but I don’t think I agree. The mid-20s group get the majority of their education about what to do for sex from porn as much as if not more than from their sex partners. They didn’t set the trends for porn that is watched today, unless they started influencing the market when they were pre-pubescent.
GekkePrutser 4y ago
Interesting, but it doesn't sound like a 'problem' per se. As long as people don't do these things against their wishes. It's not a bad thing if people broaden their sexual horizons IMO (though some of the sexual acts in porn are a bit gratuitous). But I strongly believe what consenting adults do in the bedroom is their business and nobody else's. And it does sound like it's definitely a subset of the more mainstream porn that he's practicing, after all the more extreme things often require more people. Like the other poster I also wonder whether this is a result of influencing from porn or that porn is influenced by changing behaviour. After all, porn wouldn't be made if people didn't like it.

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I don’t agree, based on at least my personal experience. My wife and I (40s) don’t engage in even a fraction of the acts I see commonly in porn. My bf (mid-20s)

by sidlls 4y ago

dTal 4y ago
Not saying you're necessarily wrong, but your observations are fully explainable by porn following trends; no causal direction can be established from them.
- sidlls 4y ago
  You have a point, but I don’t think I agree. The mid-20s group get the majority of their education about what to do for sex from porn as much as if not more than from their sex partners. They didn’t set the trends for porn that is watched today, unless they started influencing the market when they were pre-pubescent.
GekkePrutser 4y ago
Interesting, but it doesn't sound like a 'problem' per se. As long as people don't do these things against their wishes. It's not a bad thing if people broaden their sexual horizons IMO (though some of the sexual acts in porn are a bit gratuitous). But I strongly believe what consenting adults do in the bedroom is their business and nobody else's. And it does sound like it's definitely a subset of the more mainstream porn that he's practicing, after all the more extreme things often require more people. Like the other poster I also wonder whether this is a result of influencing from porn or that porn is influenced by changing behaviour. After all, porn wouldn't be made if people didn't like it.