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As they say you can't choose your family, but you can choose friends, so I can see how many/most of the people would choose between age 20-40 to stay away from
by Markoff 4y ago
As they say you can't choose your family, but you can choose friends, so I can see how many/most of the people would choose between age 20-40 to stay away from family, then when you have your own kids you will start seeing your parents in different context as you became parent and see you was maybe more harsh on them than they deserved plus them helping with watching grandkids is also bonus (this doesn't really apply to me, my mother is 4 hours away by train, father 6 hours and inlaws 11 hour flight.
- watwut 4y ago> then when you have your own kids you will start seeing your parents in different context as you became parent and see you was maybe more harsh on them than they deserved Is this really so common or just something a writer said once? Because I definitely went the opposite way. And genuinely, I never seen anyone say that they did became more understanding toward stuff that bothered them the most when they were younger. I know both people who try to emulate parents with own parenting and those who are firmly decided to do things differently. (Most have both aspects.)
- Markoff 4y agoIt's my own experience, while I still disagree with many things my parents did, I don't judge tham as much as before I had kids, now I'm more understanding. It doesn't even mean you approve their approach, you can choose different one, but you can see how difficult it is whatever you decide to do.
- watwut 4y agoThat is the thing, I went opposite way. I understood what they were aiming for with certain things and do judge them more harshly for it.
- woweoe 4y agoI guess there is going to be a number of people whose parents were basically abusive.