> Maybe to their face. We certainly don't stop describing those people honestly in general It's routine politeness to comply with wishes on how someone wants t

> Maybe to their face. We certainly don't stop describing those people honestly in general It's routine politeness to comply with wishes on how someone wants to be called without them present, no? Would like to hear if this is culture-specific. I generally don't care what variation of my name I'm called, but I can imagine myself wanting to be called by a specific name other than what's in my ID and I'd expect you to comply, and if you don't then I can totally see me considering it an infraction even if you don't do it to my face. I mean, there'd be a reason I asked for it in the first place, right? Of course, non-compliance shouldn't make you a target for crowd-sourced justice (to a degree it'd be my personal issue if it's a touchy subject for me), but unless you are mildly sociopathic you should understand that ignoring this request paints you as mentally weak (if unable to remember) or domination-seeking/insulting (if done on purpose), and that it could be a reason for me to avoid interacting with you. I don't think it's any more optional with gender (probably less since, unlike with names, there're barely any pronunciation barriers with pronouns across languages). I've met people for whom it was a touchy subject and I could empathise.