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"I'll be able to find a few people that are like me" - consider that you don't necessarily need or even want to find people like you. You're already the person

"I'll be able to find a few people that are like me" - consider that you don't necessarily need or even want to find people like you. You're already the person you are and its perfectly viable to cross-pollenate your own life/personality by befriending interesting, nice, successful people with integrity and empathy. "... meet interesting people and start afresh?" - A simple MVP approach might be to make a list of places/things you wouldn't normally go/do and rate the viability of each? Take a stab at things in the top 10% of your viability list? Consider that in performing an experiment where you meet new different people, you're quite likely to come out the other side a little different as the person you were going in. I've spent the better part of my adult life moving around etc, different cities, regions etc and making new friends is as systematic of an endeavor as any other tech problem you might be trying to solve. Consider approaching it from that angle. Good Luck - now go do some things you wouldn't normally do! EDIT: Above all, never forget that your life will quickly start to resemble the things you spend the majority of your time thinking about. If you spend your time systematizing the process of starting fresh and meeting new people it will happen as certainly as spending enough time thinking about X will eventually make you a student of X and possibly even an expert of X.

kennxfl 4y ago
>"I'll be able to find a few people that are like me" - consider that you don't necessarily need or even want to find people like you. I've started listening to 90s and early 2000s punk and screamo and all I want is people that have that same appreciation for the music. Sometimes you really want to meet like-minded people who grok the unique elements of life that you do.
_8j50 4y ago
"Be uncomfortable on purpose" great advice, hard to follow, you have to really accept the result is worth the discomfort.
Dracophoenix 4y ago
> "I'll be able to find a few people that are like me" - consider that you don't necessarily need or even want to find people like you. You're already the person you are and its perfectly viable to cross-pollenate your own life/personality by befriending interesting, nice, successful people with integrity and empathy. In my personal experience, that's not a good idea. OP isn't asking for diversity but for likemindedness. The point of finding friends is to find people with whom one has a common understanding of the world, even if one comes to different conclusions on certain points. Contrary to popular belief, diversity does not necessarily lead to cross-pollination interesting interactions. In many cases, you may end up butting heads or being compelled to shut up. That doesn't make for a good friendship. Don't throw OP into a den of lions while pretending they're vegan. OP, it seems like you're looking for intellectuals or those who have an interest in being intellectuals. If so, I'll recommend animé conventions or at least finding people who have an interest in animé. There's a large cross-section between people with intellectual niches and those who have an overt interest in animé (and not just Ghibli Films)

kennxfl 4y ago

>"I'll be able to find a few people that are like me" - consider that you don't necessarily need or even want to find people like you. I've started listening to 90s and early 2000s punk and screamo and all I want is people that have that same appreciation for the music. Sometimes you really want to meet like-minded people who grok the unique elements of life that you do.

_8j50 4y ago

"Be uncomfortable on purpose" great advice, hard to follow, you have to really accept the result is worth the discomfort.

Dracophoenix 4y ago

> "I'll be able to find a few people that are like me" - consider that you don't necessarily need or even want to find people like you. You're already the person you are and its perfectly viable to cross-pollenate your own life/personality by befriending interesting, nice, successful people with integrity and empathy. In my personal experience, that's not a good idea. OP isn't asking for diversity but for likemindedness. The point of finding friends is to find people with whom one has a common understanding of the world, even if one comes to different conclusions on certain points. Contrary to popular belief, diversity does not necessarily lead to cross-pollination interesting interactions. In many cases, you may end up butting heads or being compelled to shut up. That doesn't make for a good friendship. Don't throw OP into a den of lions while pretending they're vegan. OP, it seems like you're looking for intellectuals or those who have an interest in being intellectuals. If so, I'll recommend animé conventions or at least finding people who have an interest in animé. There's a large cross-section between people with intellectual niches and those who have an overt interest in animé (and not just Ghibli Films)