> eventually started passing so nobody remembers I'm trans anymore. Exactly, so by presenting in a particular way, you were able to get people to use the prono

> eventually started passing so nobody remembers I'm trans anymore. Exactly, so by presenting in a particular way, you were able to get people to use the pronouns you wanted. I think this is the key to why people find pronoun declaration so meaningless — pronouns are meant as a shortcut chosen by the speaker to refer to another person based on who that person appears to be. Making pronouns into a declaration breaks a fundamental piece of language functionality for very little gain.