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I’m going to go out on a very short limb and guess you’ve never actually worked closely with one of these people. I have, twice, and they work so hard they make

by sulam 4y ago

I’m going to go out on a very short limb and guess you’ve never actually worked closely with one of these people. I have, twice, and they work so hard they make me sad for them. Nonstop, there is no such thing as downtime. Yes they may go to their kid’s baseball game at 3, and proceed to answer 5 critical emails during it, take one or two calls, and then have a meeting on the drive home. After two more meetings from their house they have a quick dinner and do four more hours of work before they go to sleep, get up at 5am and work out, then work another 14 hours. During this entire day they may actually get 10 minutes to themselves, not all in one go of course. Their day is planned out in 15 minute increments and they have to constantly change gears as they go from one meeting to the next. Unless they want to be perceived as an asshole CEO they have to learn to keep a constant poker face, and always be the last to give an opinion for risk that they’ll never hear what people really think. Weekends are reserved for talking to investors, board members and key partners. It’s a super shitty life, but hey, they get to make more money than the rest of us, which mostly just causes them more headaches, like not knowing if anyone they meet is actually their friend or just looking for a handout.

BoorishBears 4y ago
Oof, where to begin? I've known more than a few CEOs between my father with his PhD in Business and specialization in strategic management and my own start in the startup world... but if we're just going out on condescending limbs, I'm going to go out on one and guess you're just coping with the "more money than the rest of us part" by convincing yourself CEOs have a horrible lonely lives? - The reality is nothing you described doesn't somewhat apply to anyone approaching higher levels of a career. For every study showing how depressed CEOs are compared to the peons, you'd find 10 more about how staff engineers/vps/product leads/etc. are too if anyone actually cared to study them. It's success that brings pressure and stress, not the title of C-suite. For example... "not knowing if anyone they meet is just looking for a handout" The median household income in this country is $67,000. If you're working in tech long enough to be turning down C-suite positions and don't already have this problem I'd start searching for a new job about 5 years ago. - Your vision of a CEO is either that of a founder CEO who lives like they're guiding their child (and will be replaced if the company ever grows large enough), or a Disney Channel movie you took too seriously. The "career C-suite" is not hired for their inability to commit to WLB. They're not hired to kiss ass on weekends. They're not hired to play psychologist to coax out your "true feelings". They definitely don't tend to hang around people who need handouts. They're not putting the company before themselves because at the end of the day the next job is waiting in the Rolodex. It is pretty hilarious that you think that though! Honestly you're describing what they wish people would see them as. I know plenty of C-suites would be over the moon with your characterization :)
- sulam 4y ago
  I’ve been a C suite exec at four different companies, and decline to consider more than that every month for at least the last four years. My taxes are more than the average American earns in their entire lifetime for over 10 years running. I’m not dumb enough to believe every single CEO fits the description I gave, but CEOs of $100B companies do not phone it in, and anyone who believes that is both ignorant and sadly lacking in both observational power and imagination.
  - lmeyerov 4y ago
    The only (good) CEOs I have seen 'phone it in' are career replacement CEOs whose job is to come in, sprinkle magic dust (fire & hire & slight rebrand), and use that to sell the company within 18mo. They have a very specific and narrow mission. The rest I met have too big a mission to phone it in. (A lot of signs of premature aging, ...) I understand it a lot less after $1B/yr in revenue though, so can't say much from experience there.
  - BoorishBears 4y ago
    Yeesh, martyring yourself while trying to awkwardly flex your tax bill? Career C-suite to a tee! Now we know where I got the vibe of "I know plenty of C-suites would be over the moon with your characterization :)" - Ignoring the fact there are millions of people would gladly trade their double shifts with no childcare for having to answer emails at the 3pm ball games. I do wonder what would have happened if you just, didn't answer emails during the kid's games? (in case I need to spell that out, it's a synecdoche for putting work over personal life...) I guess it'd just be a very "career CEO"-esque to wax poetic about how you shortened your life doing a bunch of stuff to keep companies afloat when the reality is you just chose not to be present in your own personal life. After all, a small team working through a Series B is one thing... but what 100B ship is relying on any single person (or even a room of C-suites) to keep floating?
  - refurb 4y ago
    I agree 100% with your take on CEO at $10B+ revenue companies. I worked closely with a handful of them and it’s a brutal role in terms of WLB. As you said it wasn’t unusual to be flying international 2 or 3 times per week. Late night/early morning calls with Europe/Asia and not to mention the PR aspects of it.
metadat 4y ago
This is what they want you to think. The generation of perception is an art form. Some of them do work hard, but a lot are just expert schmoozers. Don't be deceived, it's all pedigree, not meritocracy.
- kromem 4y ago
  The person I was talking about started as a retail store employee stocking shelves and we had to bring in a fashion consultant because the suits he'd buy for himself looked like they were from the discount rack (and may have been). Hands down the smartest person I ever met though. Yes, there is a fair bit of nepotism in the corporate world. But there are people who claw their way to the top on merit, and they are often incredible people, and there's more than you'd think. The problem is 85% of the room can't tell the difference (or looks at the suit to discern), and the best and brightest are stuck dancing on the strings for nepotistic idiots, often even when in C-level positions.
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  - hhlevnjak2 4y ago
    I guess there are both kinds, and the person you describe is usually someone who's company you'd prefer working in, as it's more likely they reward work over politics.
    - astrange 4y ago
      They more seem to be encouraging overwork rather than useful work here, and as such maybe they should be avoided.
  - taurath 4y ago
    In my experience those types of folks are the ones who create some of the most cutthroat environments and perpetuate poor working conditions among their companies. They are the least equipped to hire, promote, and model in ways that and maintain any semblance of having personal boundaries or that personal time is important. Sometimes it’s much nicer to work for someone who doesn’t pretend they are as important as a head of state, and makes sure it’s not required of them to be.

by sulam 4y ago

BoorishBears 4y ago

Oof, where to begin? I've known more than a few CEOs between my father with his PhD in Business and specialization in strategic management and my own start in the startup world... but if we're just going out on condescending limbs, I'm going to go out on one and guess you're just coping with the "more money than the rest of us part" by convincing yourself CEOs have a horrible lonely lives? - The reality is nothing you described doesn't somewhat apply to anyone approaching higher levels of a career. For every study showing how depressed CEOs are compared to the peons, you'd find 10 more about how staff engineers/vps/product leads/etc. are too if anyone actually cared to study them. It's success that brings pressure and stress, not the title of C-suite. For example... "not knowing if anyone they meet is just looking for a handout" The median household income in this country is $67,000. If you're working in tech long enough to be turning down C-suite positions and don't already have this problem I'd start searching for a new job about 5 years ago. - Your vision of a CEO is either that of a founder CEO who lives like they're guiding their child (and will be replaced if the company ever grows large enough), or a Disney Channel movie you took too seriously. The "career C-suite" is not hired for their inability to commit to WLB. They're not hired to kiss ass on weekends. They're not hired to play psychologist to coax out your "true feelings". They definitely don't tend to hang around people who need handouts. They're not putting the company before themselves because at the end of the day the next job is waiting in the Rolodex. It is pretty hilarious that you think that though! Honestly you're describing what they wish people would see them as. I know plenty of C-suites would be over the moon with your characterization :)

sulam 4y ago
I’ve been a C suite exec at four different companies, and decline to consider more than that every month for at least the last four years. My taxes are more than the average American earns in their entire lifetime for over 10 years running. I’m not dumb enough to believe every single CEO fits the description I gave, but CEOs of $100B companies do not phone it in, and anyone who believes that is both ignorant and sadly lacking in both observational power and imagination.
- lmeyerov 4y ago
  The only (good) CEOs I have seen 'phone it in' are career replacement CEOs whose job is to come in, sprinkle magic dust (fire & hire & slight rebrand), and use that to sell the company within 18mo. They have a very specific and narrow mission. The rest I met have too big a mission to phone it in. (A lot of signs of premature aging, ...) I understand it a lot less after $1B/yr in revenue though, so can't say much from experience there.
- BoorishBears 4y ago
  Yeesh, martyring yourself while trying to awkwardly flex your tax bill? Career C-suite to a tee! Now we know where I got the vibe of "I know plenty of C-suites would be over the moon with your characterization :)" - Ignoring the fact there are millions of people would gladly trade their double shifts with no childcare for having to answer emails at the 3pm ball games. I do wonder what would have happened if you just, didn't answer emails during the kid's games? (in case I need to spell that out, it's a synecdoche for putting work over personal life...) I guess it'd just be a very "career CEO"-esque to wax poetic about how you shortened your life doing a bunch of stuff to keep companies afloat when the reality is you just chose not to be present in your own personal life. After all, a small team working through a Series B is one thing... but what 100B ship is relying on any single person (or even a room of C-suites) to keep floating?
- refurb 4y ago
  I agree 100% with your take on CEO at $10B+ revenue companies. I worked closely with a handful of them and it’s a brutal role in terms of WLB. As you said it wasn’t unusual to be flying international 2 or 3 times per week. Late night/early morning calls with Europe/Asia and not to mention the PR aspects of it.

metadat 4y ago

This is what they want you to think. The generation of perception is an art form. Some of them do work hard, but a lot are just expert schmoozers. Don't be deceived, it's all pedigree, not meritocracy.

kromem 4y ago
The person I was talking about started as a retail store employee stocking shelves and we had to bring in a fashion consultant because the suits he'd buy for himself looked like they were from the discount rack (and may have been). Hands down the smartest person I ever met though. Yes, there is a fair bit of nepotism in the corporate world. But there are people who claw their way to the top on merit, and they are often incredible people, and there's more than you'd think. The problem is 85% of the room can't tell the difference (or looks at the suit to discern), and the best and brightest are stuck dancing on the strings for nepotistic idiots, often even when in C-level positions.
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- hhlevnjak2 4y ago
  I guess there are both kinds, and the person you describe is usually someone who's company you'd prefer working in, as it's more likely they reward work over politics.
  - astrange 4y ago
    They more seem to be encouraging overwork rather than useful work here, and as such maybe they should be avoided.
- taurath 4y ago
  In my experience those types of folks are the ones who create some of the most cutthroat environments and perpetuate poor working conditions among their companies. They are the least equipped to hire, promote, and model in ways that and maintain any semblance of having personal boundaries or that personal time is important. Sometimes it’s much nicer to work for someone who doesn’t pretend they are as important as a head of state, and makes sure it’s not required of them to be.