As a victim of violent crime, that is not my experience. Whether or not the victim wants retribution seems IMO to be cultural, religious and based on education

As a victim of violent crime, that is not my experience. Whether or not the victim wants retribution seems IMO to be cultural, religious and based on education. I am in support with victims of violent crimes (including murders), and the majority of the victims do NOT want retribution, unless it involves some magical method of enlightening the perpetrator. They often feel that retribution is yet another thing (like the original crime itself) that is being projected onto them involuntarily. Let it go already. If you do not let it go, you own it as physical pain and sickness in your own body.