Personally I don't want to punish but rather inform: if you do this, this might/will happen. It doesn't imply that they're a bad person for doing what they did,

Personally I don't want to punish but rather inform: if you do this, this might/will happen. It doesn't imply that they're a bad person for doing what they did, just speaks more to the cause and effect of actions. I think this may actually work better for kids. I think so often we praise/shame them, and they can get caught in a cycle of unpredictable self-worth. I dunno, for me, I like to let people know how I will most likely react to certain actions and tell them that even if I react that way, I will still love them. Punishing (with the intent to hurt them) often hurts me, so I'd rather not try to hurt them. That being said, I do want people to know if they punch me in the face, I may punch them back, leave the bar, or strongly distance myself from them physically. I just want people to be more aware of consequences rather than feel like they're a bad person for choosing their actions.