I'm on the same boat as you. I feel like when we do things that would be emotionally satisfying as a reaction to something, it is almost always the wrong thing

I'm on the same boat as you. I feel like when we do things that would be emotionally satisfying as a reaction to something, it is almost always the wrong thing to do in the bigger picture. The space of possible reactions is infinite, and picking the first choice coming to mind just feels totally wrong.