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Statistical studies of happiness are interesting, but I feel they are borderline useless for practical application. There's just too much subjectivity lost in
by dasil003 4y ago
Statistical studies of happiness are interesting, but I feel they are borderline useless for practical application. There's just too much subjectivity lost in the quantification of happiness. Individuals are not populations.
On a personal level I feel the fastest way to feel unhappy is to worry too much about whether I am happy. Trying to design a goals or future state in pursuit of happiness feels like setting myself up for disappointment. All else being equal, having money is better than not having it, being engaged in some mentally challenging "work" is better than being bored, having good family and friend relationships is better than being isolated, but trying to optimize these things with some kind of master plan feels like it induces FOMO and general anxiety about the finite possibilities for one life.
I prefer to go with the flow, stay engaged in whatever I'm doing, and keep my eyes open for opportunities. I'm not sure if this makes me "happy", but I'm sure more content when I'm operating then when I try too hard to size up the big picture.
- krisrm 4y ago> On a personal level I feel the fastest way to feel unhappy is to worry too much about whether I am happy These are wise words that I needed to hear after a hard day and feeling like I've always been getting the short end of the stick lately. Thank you for writing them.
- christophilus 4y agoI think you’re right about the way to be unhappy. You might even generalize it to be: too much self preoccupation. The most miserable people I know are self absorbed. The happiest ones are always focused on something other than themselves. I’ve found this same pattern plays out in my own life.