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About a year ago I wrote an article about a similar topic. It’s so easy to fall into the goals trap, where external goals dictate our happiness. It’s addictive,
by syrusakbary 4y ago
About a year ago I wrote an article about a similar topic.
It’s so easy to fall into the goals trap, where external goals dictate our happiness. It’s addictive, specially if you achieve them. It might seem contradictory but achieving external goals usually drifts us away from happiness.
Here’s the article if anyone is interested on reading further!
https://syrusakbary.medium.com/achieve-your-goals-happily-e2f82663bda https://syrusakbary.medium.com/achieve-your-goals-happily-e2...
- nonrandomstring 4y ago> Imagine where you would like to end and draw a mental map of which personality traits or skills you need in order to get there Interesting adaptive system take. Adapt the model/ego ideal. Random theory as to why people don't do that... if you think the goal is necessary to get the ideal, then changing yourself might make you not want the goal any more. Given the superpower to simply decide to be happy, but risk becoming Diogenes instead of Alexander the Great, who would take it? You'd have to be a-priori happy with missing out on all you presently hold dear [1]. [1] Read "Missing Out" by Adam Phillips for a deep and disturbing account of how powerful that can be,