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This is good insight. My limit3d understanding of the world showed me a certain close friend as an extremely anxious, borderline narcissist person. This perso

This is good insight. My limit3d understanding of the world showed me a certain close friend as an extremely anxious, borderline narcissist person. This person has over the years, progressed to a highly sucessful career, broadly admired by peers. But having known the person for years I know whata under the hood and the constant calls let me know about all the deep insecurities that are unfathomable to me. This person has an attention to detail and focus that I didnt think humanly possible. He will replay every conversation from many angles, looking for clues or things to attach insecurities too. This person would be a formidable spymaster for any king. Its incredible how much information iteration a person can do with the right incentive (anxiety) Here is the rub. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What I used to see as a flawed, broken individual, I've come to see as a wonderful example of how nature has a purpose. You may need to keep your distance from these human steamrollerss, dont get in their path! but dont forget to appreciate the machinery at work. And of course, if there's a path that needs carving..

knaik94 4y ago
I would argue that kind of personality is due to the opposite of nature. It was a rewarded behavior that has been nurtured over time to become weaponized, from a certain perspective. Having insecurities is to be human, but anxiety and discomfort has to come from a willingness to endure them. The society around your close friend has rewarded this analytical behavior and so they leaned into it rather than becoming avoidant. My personal belief is that it comes from a place of accepting the behavior objectively and without judgement or negativity. If you spend so much time and energy on just analyzing yourself, you don't have as much room for others and this reflects as a sort of narcissism. But that doesn't actually reflect how much they care about others. Humans have to self regulate their bandwidth for how much external things will affect them. I don't know if it's behavior to be actively avoided, because from their perspective, it's something they feel the opposite of indifferent to. Making decisions from a place of having mapped out most, if not all, possibilities leads to more positive outcomes in the long term. I understand that not everyone will want to spend that kind of energy to guarantee that kind of security in their decisions. Not everyone feels they need that kind of security before making decisions.

knaik94 4y ago

I would argue that kind of personality is due to the opposite of nature. It was a rewarded behavior that has been nurtured over time to become weaponized, from a certain perspective. Having insecurities is to be human, but anxiety and discomfort has to come from a willingness to endure them. The society around your close friend has rewarded this analytical behavior and so they leaned into it rather than becoming avoidant. My personal belief is that it comes from a place of accepting the behavior objectively and without judgement or negativity. If you spend so much time and energy on just analyzing yourself, you don't have as much room for others and this reflects as a sort of narcissism. But that doesn't actually reflect how much they care about others. Humans have to self regulate their bandwidth for how much external things will affect them. I don't know if it's behavior to be actively avoided, because from their perspective, it's something they feel the opposite of indifferent to. Making decisions from a place of having mapped out most, if not all, possibilities leads to more positive outcomes in the long term. I understand that not everyone will want to spend that kind of energy to guarantee that kind of security in their decisions. Not everyone feels they need that kind of security before making decisions.