This is fair, and familiar. A common sensation over the last half-decade or so is to be shocked without being surprised. That this was a predictable facet of D

This is fair, and familiar. A common sensation over the last half-decade or so is to be shocked without being surprised. That this was a predictable facet of DFW's character doesn't make his purported actions less saddening and hurtful. It's okay--expected!--to struggle. It's common--awful, but repairable!--to hurt others in the process. The open question is whether that repair would have ever been available had he lived.