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All I can say is your relation looks very superficial that I'm not sure why are you married in the first place. What happens if either of you for some reason (l

by solids 4y ago

All I can say is your relation looks very superficial that I'm not sure why are you married in the first place. What happens if either of you for some reason (like an accident) suffer physiological changes that "you don't find attractive"? Are you going to pack and leave? So sad.

snickerbockers 4y ago
geez, all they said was that they don't find their husband's baldness attractive.
happytoexplain 4y ago
This is an unrealistic, but common opinion due to how emotional the topic is. It's important to try to avoid adding hostility to the conversation because it "feels" justified. Nobody can control what they find attractive and unattractive, and attraction is an absolutely unavoidable component of most marital relationships. Some people focus on it unreasonably, and we consider them shallow, but it is impossible to _expect_ any arbitrary person to be utterly unaffected by it.
- valarauko 4y ago
  Fair enough, but we are also talking about normal human aging here - the vast majority of men will experience some level of hair loss over time. Expecting your male spouse to retain a juvenile hairline into later decades is unrealistic and shortsighted. Not attracted to bald men? Fine - majority of people aren't - but plenty of people are willing to overlook physiological maturation in their spouse over time. > Nobody can control what they find attractive and unattractive, and attraction is an absolutely unavoidable component of most marital relationships. Some people focus on it unreasonably, and we consider them shallow, but it is impossible to _expect_ any arbitrary person to be utterly unaffected by it. I don't think the mood in this thread is expecting her (I assume it's a woman) to be utterly unaffected by the normal, healthy aging almost all men undergo. I think we're a little taken aback that she's so repulsed by the idea of her two children's' father's thinning scalp.
- shutitfag 4y ago
slim 4y ago
This is a comment coming from someone with very limited experience in human condition

by solids 4y ago

snickerbockers 4y ago

geez, all they said was that they don't find their husband's baldness attractive.

happytoexplain 4y ago

This is an unrealistic, but common opinion due to how emotional the topic is. It's important to try to avoid adding hostility to the conversation because it "feels" justified. Nobody can control what they find attractive and unattractive, and attraction is an absolutely unavoidable component of most marital relationships. Some people focus on it unreasonably, and we consider them shallow, but it is impossible to _expect_ any arbitrary person to be utterly unaffected by it.

valarauko 4y ago
Fair enough, but we are also talking about normal human aging here - the vast majority of men will experience some level of hair loss over time. Expecting your male spouse to retain a juvenile hairline into later decades is unrealistic and shortsighted. Not attracted to bald men? Fine - majority of people aren't - but plenty of people are willing to overlook physiological maturation in their spouse over time. > Nobody can control what they find attractive and unattractive, and attraction is an absolutely unavoidable component of most marital relationships. Some people focus on it unreasonably, and we consider them shallow, but it is impossible to _expect_ any arbitrary person to be utterly unaffected by it. I don't think the mood in this thread is expecting her (I assume it's a woman) to be utterly unaffected by the normal, healthy aging almost all men undergo. I think we're a little taken aback that she's so repulsed by the idea of her two children's' father's thinning scalp.
shutitfag 4y ago

slim 4y ago

This is a comment coming from someone with very limited experience in human condition