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I certainly hope so. My husband's hair is thinning, between the anguish he feels and the guilt I feel for finding it unattractive, a cure would be fantastic. H

I certainly hope so. My husband's hair is thinning, between the anguish he feels and the guilt I feel for finding it unattractive, a cure would be fantastic. He wants to save up for a 20k transplant surgery, but I'm finding it hard to accept price wise when we have two kids.

TheLoafOfBread 4y ago
I am glad that my recipe for balding is just shave it off instead of prolonging the suffering.
- mywittyname 4y ago
  This isn't the cure-all people make it out to be. I tried it once and like 10 people all separately told me to grow it back. There are plenty of people who look better with hair.
politelemon 4y ago
See if shaving all the hair off would help. It's what a lot of people do and it works as long as they "own" it. And importantly it works for certain kinds of heads, so a bit of imagining is required It does also involve shaving the hair more frequently, so ideally you'd get a hair clipper for home use to save on costs.
- stuckinhell 4y ago
  I guess that would work for a lot of people, but I'm personally not attracted to bald men. So I think I'd prefer if my husband got the transplants, I think our only problem is money... but the more I think about it, it'll probably be worth it for our marriage in the long run.
  - quacked 4y ago
    I won't ask any questions to avoid embarrassing your husband on this forum where he can't defend himself, but I will note that if he isn't in good shape or dresses unfashionably (not necessarily stylish--simply clean clothes that fit well and flatter him), baldness will hit him much harder. You may help your relationship by assisting his improvement in those areas; if that's already the case and you really just can't stand baldness, alas.
  - GordonS 4y ago
    Someone else in this thread said they got a hair transplant in Turkey for just $1,500, and from the pictures he posted the results were great! Instead of dropping $20k, maybe you could think about a family holiday to Turkey, and your hubby could get a transplant while there?
    - stuckinhell 4y ago
      Yep, thats a good idea.
      - penguin_booze 4y ago
        This Reddit might be of interest: https://www.reddit.com/r/HairTransplants/ https://www.reddit.com/r/HairTransplants/.
  - sidewndr46 4y ago
    This comment is rather interesting to me. If I understand what you are saying here is that unless your husband is willing to undergo cosmetic surgery the long-term probability of you two staying together goes down?
    - missingrib 4y ago
      She's being insanely callous, as is fashionable to do on this website for some reason.
      - happytoexplain 4y ago
        She's actually communicating quite reasonably and sounds pragmatic, not callous. I'm frankly astounded by the amount and severity of weirdly "normal" angry replies about this on HN ("normal" as in typical on the internet). Even on emotional topics, there's usually only one or two of those, and they often get flagged quickly.
        ad404b8a372f2b9 4y ago
        I say this without anger but it makes me feel as uncomfortable and sad as if I'd read "if my wife doesn't get breast implants our marriage will suffer." I can't imagine saying that to someone I'm in a relationship with or how gutted I'd feel if someone asked that of me. Maybe it's the kind of honesty and pragmatism you reach after decades of marriage, but it's horrible to read from the outside.
        valarauko 4y ago
        I agree, and as a bald man myself, it's a tad surprising to read this from the spouse of a man who's currently only thinning - and someone they have two kids with. That thinning hair has been extrapolated to something that's irrevocably damaging to their marriage. I get it - a shiny pate isn't everybody's thing - but it's still surprising to read that it's worth losing a spouse and the father of your children over.
  - dQw4w9WgXcQ 4y ago
    > it'll probably be worth it for our marriage in the long run. What are you gonna do when you both get old? You're going be a saggy-breasted wrinkly bag (might already be due to the kids) and so will he, best figure out your attitude problem now.
    - francisofascii 4y ago
      Being attracted to someone is not a choice. If people could trick their brain into being attracted to whoever they want, they would. I am afraid it is "built in" to a large extent. I agree with your sentiment, though. It is worth trying, but it is not as easy as an attitude adjustment.
      - pessimizer 4y ago
        Both of you are right, but if you plan to be married for life, it only goes downhill (with mild bursts of looking 5-10 years younger for a minute after you take up running in middle-age.)
    - 5350-uiop-1130 4y ago
      it must be a troll...
  - hunterjrj 4y ago
    While your concern is certainly very personal, and a deeply rooted preference over which you have little control, I have to point out that body shaming can have disastrous effects on the recipient[1]. Aging spares no one. Worth reflecting on. [1] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_shaming https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_shaming
- bluedino 4y ago
  Get some muscles, a tan, and possibly grow some interesting facial hair.
solids 4y ago
All I can say is your relation looks very superficial that I'm not sure why are you married in the first place. What happens if either of you for some reason (like an accident) suffer physiological changes that "you don't find attractive"? Are you going to pack and leave? So sad.
- snickerbockers 4y ago
  geez, all they said was that they don't find their husband's baldness attractive.
- happytoexplain 4y ago
  This is an unrealistic, but common opinion due to how emotional the topic is. It's important to try to avoid adding hostility to the conversation because it "feels" justified. Nobody can control what they find attractive and unattractive, and attraction is an absolutely unavoidable component of most marital relationships. Some people focus on it unreasonably, and we consider them shallow, but it is impossible to _expect_ any arbitrary person to be utterly unaffected by it.
  - valarauko 4y ago
    Fair enough, but we are also talking about normal human aging here - the vast majority of men will experience some level of hair loss over time. Expecting your male spouse to retain a juvenile hairline into later decades is unrealistic and shortsighted. Not attracted to bald men? Fine - majority of people aren't - but plenty of people are willing to overlook physiological maturation in their spouse over time. > Nobody can control what they find attractive and unattractive, and attraction is an absolutely unavoidable component of most marital relationships. Some people focus on it unreasonably, and we consider them shallow, but it is impossible to _expect_ any arbitrary person to be utterly unaffected by it. I don't think the mood in this thread is expecting her (I assume it's a woman) to be utterly unaffected by the normal, healthy aging almost all men undergo. I think we're a little taken aback that she's so repulsed by the idea of her two children's' father's thinning scalp.
  - shutitfag 4y ago
swader999 4y ago
In my thirty's I shaved my balding head and spent my money on my teeth. No regrets.
FinanceAnon 4y ago
He could start taking finasteride/propecia. If he was getting a hair transplant, he would have to take it anyway so his hairline doesn't recede further behind the transplanted hair.
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LazyMans 4y ago
I was using minoxonil for a while and it was just meh, I knew about propecia but the side-effects are bad and it messes with hormones. Discovered Hims makes a minoxonil + propecia combination topical. This combined with norizal shampoo lead to a massive difference in about 9 months. I only apply once a day, not twice a day like recommended so it could possibly be even better for me. The Hims stuff is only $50/mo and I'm really stretching it out since I'm only applying half what they recommend. I really would recommend trying this out to anybody before going to implants.
commiepatrol 4y ago
Fly to Thailand, they do it for 4k over there. I know a guy who did it there, looked great.
slim 4y ago
he can have it for ~$3000 in Turkey consider having the surgery abroad
xenospn 4y ago
He can go to Istanbul and get it done for 1/4 the cost.

TheLoafOfBread 4y ago

I am glad that my recipe for balding is just shave it off instead of prolonging the suffering.

mywittyname 4y ago
This isn't the cure-all people make it out to be. I tried it once and like 10 people all separately told me to grow it back. There are plenty of people who look better with hair.

politelemon 4y ago

See if shaving all the hair off would help. It's what a lot of people do and it works as long as they "own" it. And importantly it works for certain kinds of heads, so a bit of imagining is required It does also involve shaving the hair more frequently, so ideally you'd get a hair clipper for home use to save on costs.

stuckinhell 4y ago
I guess that would work for a lot of people, but I'm personally not attracted to bald men. So I think I'd prefer if my husband got the transplants, I think our only problem is money... but the more I think about it, it'll probably be worth it for our marriage in the long run.
- quacked 4y ago
  I won't ask any questions to avoid embarrassing your husband on this forum where he can't defend himself, but I will note that if he isn't in good shape or dresses unfashionably (not necessarily stylish--simply clean clothes that fit well and flatter him), baldness will hit him much harder. You may help your relationship by assisting his improvement in those areas; if that's already the case and you really just can't stand baldness, alas.
- GordonS 4y ago
  Someone else in this thread said they got a hair transplant in Turkey for just $1,500, and from the pictures he posted the results were great! Instead of dropping $20k, maybe you could think about a family holiday to Turkey, and your hubby could get a transplant while there?
  - stuckinhell 4y ago
    Yep, thats a good idea.
    - penguin_booze 4y ago
      This Reddit might be of interest: https://www.reddit.com/r/HairTransplants/ https://www.reddit.com/r/HairTransplants/.
- sidewndr46 4y ago
  This comment is rather interesting to me. If I understand what you are saying here is that unless your husband is willing to undergo cosmetic surgery the long-term probability of you two staying together goes down?
  - missingrib 4y ago
    She's being insanely callous, as is fashionable to do on this website for some reason.
    - happytoexplain 4y ago
      She's actually communicating quite reasonably and sounds pragmatic, not callous. I'm frankly astounded by the amount and severity of weirdly "normal" angry replies about this on HN ("normal" as in typical on the internet). Even on emotional topics, there's usually only one or two of those, and they often get flagged quickly.
      - ad404b8a372f2b9 4y ago
        I say this without anger but it makes me feel as uncomfortable and sad as if I'd read "if my wife doesn't get breast implants our marriage will suffer." I can't imagine saying that to someone I'm in a relationship with or how gutted I'd feel if someone asked that of me. Maybe it's the kind of honesty and pragmatism you reach after decades of marriage, but it's horrible to read from the outside.
        valarauko 4y ago
        I agree, and as a bald man myself, it's a tad surprising to read this from the spouse of a man who's currently only thinning - and someone they have two kids with. That thinning hair has been extrapolated to something that's irrevocably damaging to their marriage. I get it - a shiny pate isn't everybody's thing - but it's still surprising to read that it's worth losing a spouse and the father of your children over.
- dQw4w9WgXcQ 4y ago
  > it'll probably be worth it for our marriage in the long run. What are you gonna do when you both get old? You're going be a saggy-breasted wrinkly bag (might already be due to the kids) and so will he, best figure out your attitude problem now.
  - francisofascii 4y ago
    Being attracted to someone is not a choice. If people could trick their brain into being attracted to whoever they want, they would. I am afraid it is "built in" to a large extent. I agree with your sentiment, though. It is worth trying, but it is not as easy as an attitude adjustment.
    - pessimizer 4y ago
      Both of you are right, but if you plan to be married for life, it only goes downhill (with mild bursts of looking 5-10 years younger for a minute after you take up running in middle-age.)
  - 5350-uiop-1130 4y ago
    it must be a troll...
- hunterjrj 4y ago
  While your concern is certainly very personal, and a deeply rooted preference over which you have little control, I have to point out that body shaming can have disastrous effects on the recipient[1]. Aging spares no one. Worth reflecting on. [1] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_shaming https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_shaming
bluedino 4y ago
Get some muscles, a tan, and possibly grow some interesting facial hair.

solids 4y ago

All I can say is your relation looks very superficial that I'm not sure why are you married in the first place. What happens if either of you for some reason (like an accident) suffer physiological changes that "you don't find attractive"? Are you going to pack and leave? So sad.

snickerbockers 4y ago
geez, all they said was that they don't find their husband's baldness attractive.
happytoexplain 4y ago
This is an unrealistic, but common opinion due to how emotional the topic is. It's important to try to avoid adding hostility to the conversation because it "feels" justified. Nobody can control what they find attractive and unattractive, and attraction is an absolutely unavoidable component of most marital relationships. Some people focus on it unreasonably, and we consider them shallow, but it is impossible to _expect_ any arbitrary person to be utterly unaffected by it.
- valarauko 4y ago
  Fair enough, but we are also talking about normal human aging here - the vast majority of men will experience some level of hair loss over time. Expecting your male spouse to retain a juvenile hairline into later decades is unrealistic and shortsighted. Not attracted to bald men? Fine - majority of people aren't - but plenty of people are willing to overlook physiological maturation in their spouse over time. > Nobody can control what they find attractive and unattractive, and attraction is an absolutely unavoidable component of most marital relationships. Some people focus on it unreasonably, and we consider them shallow, but it is impossible to _expect_ any arbitrary person to be utterly unaffected by it. I don't think the mood in this thread is expecting her (I assume it's a woman) to be utterly unaffected by the normal, healthy aging almost all men undergo. I think we're a little taken aback that she's so repulsed by the idea of her two children's' father's thinning scalp.
- shutitfag 4y ago

swader999 4y ago

In my thirty's I shaved my balding head and spent my money on my teeth. No regrets.

FinanceAnon 4y ago

He could start taking finasteride/propecia. If he was getting a hair transplant, he would have to take it anyway so his hairline doesn't recede further behind the transplanted hair.

deleted 4y ago

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LazyMans 4y ago

I was using minoxonil for a while and it was just meh, I knew about propecia but the side-effects are bad and it messes with hormones. Discovered Hims makes a minoxonil + propecia combination topical. This combined with norizal shampoo lead to a massive difference in about 9 months. I only apply once a day, not twice a day like recommended so it could possibly be even better for me. The Hims stuff is only $50/mo and I'm really stretching it out since I'm only applying half what they recommend. I really would recommend trying this out to anybody before going to implants.

commiepatrol 4y ago

Fly to Thailand, they do it for 4k over there. I know a guy who did it there, looked great.

slim 4y ago

he can have it for ~$3000 in Turkey consider having the surgery abroad

xenospn 4y ago

He can go to Istanbul and get it done for 1/4 the cost.